How well are you doing in your marriage so far?

Following covid, the fuel crisis, and the financial pressures more couples face it is essential to strengthen, save or rebuild your relationship before it's too late (if you both still want your relationship to work).

Or you could make the most significant decision of your life, wrongly, without the right discerning knowledge to help you save what you have. In my experience, therapy and counselling are not right for everyone. If you value your self-development and growth, then read on.....

If you are both struggling and miscommunicating, intimacy is breaking down in the bedroom (or has for a while). According to the ONS*, The average age for divorce is 45 for a man and 42 for a woman.

Consider these questions to sense check your relationship happiness together.

1. Do you believe your husband/wife should make you happy? Yes/No?
2. During an argument, do you blame your husband/wife for upsetting you? Yes/No?
3. Do you avoid discussing an argument (or walk away)? Yes/No?
4. Do you ignore your partner and remain in a mood for a while, if not days?  Yes/No?
5. Now you have been together a few years, do you sometimes feel bored with your relationship?  Yes/No?

If you answered 4 or 5 ‘Yes' to the above 5 questions:

What You Give Your Attention To

I bet you would develop your business skills at work to support your job function to improve your success or get the promotion you want. Investing time also to develop new relationship skills to improve your relationship success, can take you from where you are now, to strengthen what you have together.

Consider the next Top 10 priceless tips to help you reignite your relationship happiness.

Top 10 Tips to Avoid Divorce in 2023

For your relationship to survive and thrive.  Read each point then give yourself a mark out of 10.  Zero (= lowest number), up to 10 (=you are the best you can be).

1. Take responsibility for your own inner happiness, your self-confidence, how you feel about yourself. It’s the first step to improving your relationship happiness.  If you don’t feel good about yourself, how can you feel good about anyone else, your wife or husband? Start working on your mental and emotional fitness.  How happy do you feel about your personal happiness right now?  What number would you give yourself from 0 up to 10?
2. Take time to understand how you tick and communicate. Unless you know where your buttons come from when you get upset, and respond or react the way you do with your partner (or follow the same patterns with someone else) you will continue to keep pressing each other's buttons without any intention of doing it. When you get clear about why and when your buttons show up, you will learn a newfound sense of understanding of yourself and your partner, wife or husband. This knowledge is priceless if you want to save or strengthen your relationship. Before you decide your partner is no longer making you happy, think again. How aware of you of your buttons from 0 - 10?
3. Keep intimacy and sex alive Get your communication steps right (with your new skills), listen and respect each other's feelings, you can bring love and intimacy back on track. Your partner still wants to feel desirable regardless of the time you have known each other. Compliments are so precious to keep the fire burning for each other. How often do you compliment your partner 0 - 10?
4. Get clear about why you respond the way you do during conflict. You cannot change who you are, you can, however, learn to understand your natural communication style to better understand yourself. Then you will better understand your partner to become better equipped to bring love and chemistry back into flow much quicker. How well do you understand your style of communication (in your relationship) from 0-10?
5. You have a choice to decide how you react and respond to conflict.  You can also choose your attitude. Instead of shouting at each other. Make a conscious choice to discuss the way you feel, without passing blame, once have both calmed down. Remove yourself from an angry situation, start by slowing your breathing down to calm your body and mind. By learning the toolkit to take control of your anger (your emotions), you will respond and react so very differently to your partner. How well do you navigate conflict and your feelings from 0 - 10?
6. If you are feeling bored with your routine.  Or sex and intimacy are becoming less frequent.  Make time to plan new fun, exciting events or adventures together to reignite the romance. Sharing new experiences will reconnect you more intimately. How good are you at keeping love alive from 0-10?
7. Learning about your deeper emotional needs (beyond sex and chemistry) will help you discover what's important to your partner. How great are you at listening to give your partner space to talk about their emotional needs from 0-10?
8. How to overcome your negative emotions during/after conflict.  When you feel angry, with practice notice how you feel, where tension is held in your body.  How do your emotions make you feel? How well can you manage your anger and emotions to overcome conflict from 0 - 10?
9. Start planning regular date nights (to make each other feel special). Share your appreciation of each other, the reasons you were first attracted to each other. Remind your partner why they are so unique to you. Plan a new shared adventure (just the two of you together). Share some quality time together, to reignite your love, intimacy and connection. You are both responsible for your 50% of your relationship's happiness.

Another partner will not make you happy. Apply what you need to learn first. Separation or divorce will subsequently no longer be an option. Get your relationship survival toolkit, the solutions, to see how your relationship will change - if you both want to work on your relationship together.

To get in touch. Contact me here at LoveCoachingYou.com

Men, to find the right woman, work with a woman!

If you are a task-focused accomplished businessman, a proud man, you may be very intelligent and socially skilled too. When it comes to your personal life, women and love, you may not be having much luck if you are divorced or single. 

If you are more confused than ever about women

And you want to avoid making the same relationship mistakes. As a Relationship Expert and a woman who understands women, I accelerate results with men before you start seriously dating to recognise your (hot crazy matrix unicorn - video below) to find the right woman beyond looks and chemistry. The skills I share with men who want to attract the right woman, also apply to you if you want to strengthen your relationship with your girlfriend or wife if you are having problems not understanding each other. Even if you are recently engaged or married, this blog could be your greatest gift to understand what it takes to keep hold of your happy ever after!

Historically, men are the natural hunters and women want to be hunted. As a man, you also need the right toolkit before you are ready to go hunting to attract the right woman now or in the near future. The same toolkit will accelerate your results to build a much stronger connection with the special woman in your life for your relationship to thrive (if this is you right now).

If your business and job take up a lot of your time

You might be purposely keeping yourself busy without realising it. Filling your diary is a great way to avoid finding a new partner or avoid being with your partner at home. Sports is also a great distraction if you enjoy keeping fit, running, cycling, triathlons. Subconsciously you are also likely to be protecting yourself from another painful or threatening experience your brain is programmed to help you avoid - another woman. My advice to every man, learn about women from a woman. Or end your relationship and the same problems will show up again in another future relationship.

Imagine for one minute if you applied a new toolkit approach

You will attract your unicorn (see video below), or rebuild the one you have. Get this right, you will change the course of your future and sex life. If you have heard the saying, "A happy wife is a happy life" it is true with any woman. If you understand how to find and build a strong relationship the right woman will jump out to you (or you will recognise what you have is already with your existing partner). Think about it?

Have you ever considered what type of woman you do want to attract? Do you really know who your Mrs Right is (beyond sex and chemistry)? Or what was it about your partner that attracted you to them? If you don't know this answer. It is similar to getting into a car without a sat nav or map. You will be unsure of your destination and possibly take the longest route and continue to get lost. Or get clear about your address and you will go straight there. Which journey would you prefer?

 Your Self-Fulfilling Prophecy

Love is exciting, fulfilling and rewarding when we get it right. If, however, you are a man in your late 30’s, mid-40s or 50’s everything changes if you are still unmarried, separated or divorced. 

Now for one moment imagine your life is a film.  Let me put your film called ‘Your relationship story so far’ on pause right now. Remember, the fairy tale storybooks we grew up reading or watching on TV, they all have a lot to answer for. Why? because it’s the one belief we consistently reinforce to be 100% true and society tells us that you are Prince Charming and one day you will sweep the woman you love off her feet.  You will want to look after her and make sure she is happy. 

Well, your fairy tale and the life you are living right now may not be close to any fairy tale.  It is however called your self-fulfilling prophecy.  What do I mean self-fulfilling prophecy?  What you believe to be true about love, relationships, women, yourself, will keep showing up for you. The relationship experience you have will keep repeating itself unless you edit and overwrite your database with new files that work.

Here are just a few old data files you may like to overwrite.  For example. You believe a woman will hurt you, let you down, all the best women are taken, women will walk all over you, or you cannot bat above your station.  These are just some of the typical beliefs you may keep rewinding, replaying or repeating.

Here’s a new example to consider.  When you learn how to access your disempowering files you can easily overwrite them with new data that works with your new self-fulfilling prophecy.  Are you ready to overwrite your old files to find, recognise and attract your unicorn? Do you also want to know how to build a relationship that can thrive together?

To help you reset your relationship compass in a completely new direction that will prepare you in advance of meeting Mrs Right and unicorn. It only takes 1 or 3 months if you value your personal growth.

Instead of filling your time and life keeping busy or to avoid being alone or feeling lonely.  Unless you get clear about your new postcode, you are 98% likely to repeat the same mistakes in a new future relationship.

Where are you right now?  Here's a couple of questions to get you thinking:

1. On a scale of zero up to 10 (10= your life is the way you want it to be), how happy are you? What number would you give yourself? 
2. On the same scale of zero up to 10 (=you know how to attract the right woman to you beyond sex and chemistry)  What number are you?. 
3. On the same scale if (10=you absolutely understand women and their deeper needs) what number are you?

If you are ready to improve your life with women, you don't want therapy or counselling book your free 20-30 minute call today and let’s have a chat if you are time poor!

About Karen Marshall

Today a qualified and experienced Relationship Expert. Coach and Wellbeing Expert in the mind, body and energy and the steps to accelerate your relationship results!

To live your best life ever, I will help you to find and attract your unicorn relationship you will understand when you watch the Hot Crazy Matrix from YouTube featuring Dana Mclendon (this version is without the advert). Men love this!

If you don’t get this part of your life handled, how will it impact your future?

Let’s have a chat if you would like to book your free 20-30 minute Discovery Call today

Or discover what women want when you complete this online programme.  The same principles apply for women and men.

If you want to find out how to accelerate your next steps and avoid wasting any more of your life attracting the wrong women.

Wishing you much happiness and the love you truly deserve!

Karen Marshall

LoveCoachingYou.com

07590 221951