If January 3rd is now recognised as “Divorce Day” by solicitors who see a spike in business just after the new year, it’s obvious that the couples who stayed together over Christmas, finally gave in to start divorce proceedings.

Other relationships also end once Christmas presents have been exchanged. January then becomes the focus month to reassess if the man you are living with or have been dating is right for you.

After all, the stress of the festive season combined with dealing with close family, more time to think, no work to occupy your mind, could certainly throw a torch light on your relationship.

So how can you help your relationship survive the January blues?

1.First of all, it’s important that you take time to think about your choices

Christmas may have been the wake-up call that you needed, but it’s not the best time to make any rash decisions that could possibly affect your life.

2.Your next step is to think about whether you’re making your partner’s faults a bigger problem than they actually are.

Think about the positive aspects of your relationship, what positive qualities does your man have that makes him special and important to you?  What qualities were you first attracted to?  Remember, no body is perfect. So, who is causing the difficulties right now, you or your man?

3.Is it time to consider how you can become a better partner for your man?

To become the best 50% of your relationship you need to take responsibility for your own imperfections. Have you been putting too much emotional pressure on him? Or is it time to discover what obstacles may be holding you back from the relationship you want.  If you would love to have a more lasting and loving relationship that works, you need to become more aware of the way you think and communicate.

4.What new year resolution could help your relationship?

Instead of arguing, enjoy a date night spending some quality time together really listening to each other's needs. Recognise and acknowledge your man when he does something special for you.  He loves to feel acknowledged and appreciated.

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Eating a picnic breakfast on a beautiful sun kissed Australian Mandurah beach on Christmas morning, certainly made me realise how drab and grey an English Christmas can be without a dusting of snow to make the festive season magical.

It was 8.30am and the sun was blazing hot already, but it was the bright red reindeer hats that caught our attention as a family parked their towels close by.  As we wished each other Merry Christmas I learned the Parker family were from Bolton having emigrated for a better life some 8 months earlier.

This chance encounter was a great reminder for me; how important meeting and choosing your right partner is in your life, when they will undoubtedly shape your future and destiny, rightly or wrongly.

This young couple would have never made such a courageous life choice, or possibly even taken the big leap of faith, if they were not aligned as a couple.  Being part of the power of two, only enriched their life.

This story was similarly parallel to my own experience. For sure I wouldn't have been on such a beautiful beach Christmas Day, if I had not taken steps to understand myself first when I was single. I certainly would have not met Dave without changing my thinking and approach before we met back in 2008.  Now my life has dramatically transformed into my dream and the future I wanted for so many years.  Only because I had become more self-aware, I met someone as amazing as Dave who I am now happily married to, and because I was open to someone with children of his own.

It also goes to prove that the COO of Facebook, Sheryl Sandberg knows her stuff about making the right partner choices. Click here if you're a career woman wanting to know more. https://lovecoachingyou.com/857-2/

If time is passing you by, should you continue to devote all your time to your career if you no longer want to keep making the wrong relationship choices? Or, is it time to invest and focus more time and energy finding your right partner first, before the next 5 years disappear, and your still living alone.

When you invest in your own self-worth to find the happiness you seek, the power of two will certainly enrich your heart and life when you get it right. What if, you don't meet Mr Right in the next 5 years?  How will this situation impact your life?  www.Lovecoachingyou.com