If you are a driven, and determined successful woman and value your self-development, regardless of where you are on your dating or early relationship journey, understanding the dating paradox will accelerate your dating success. And determine your relationship's happiness!
I hear most women say this to me. “I am not ready to start dating yet, so I don’t need any help.” It is absolutely your paradox.
During this chapter of your life, when you don’t feel ready, it’s the perfect time to do the work, to be ready.
Why? Have you heard the dilemma question; which comes first, the chicken or the egg? Whether you want to get your dating decision right or build a more loving and healthy relationship that works. What comes first? New relationship skills, or dating skills?
Yes, it is key to work on new relationship communication skills IN ADVANCE of dating. In advance, of being ready for another relationship. So I would highly recommend if you are a woman who values your self-growth and development, learning a new toolkit while you are single, then you will get very different dating results with the quality men you attract to you and the skills to build a healthy thriving relationship that works and can survive.
If you are dating. And your previous relationship history has left you feeling fearful deep down of getting hurt again. Be warned. You are 98% likely to repeat the same patterns and mistakes in another relationship (without realising it) unless you shift your dating approach. Applying a new toolkit anyone can learn especially if you love learning about yourself will accelerate finding and building the loving relationship every woman deserves.
You will reset your inner compass to discern if a man is compatible with you on a much deeper emotional level before you meet him.
It's easy to discern from out the outside how a man makes you feel, but what counts is on the inside, the way he communicates, values, respects and shows you love. You will also become the better partner for him and more easily navigate your challenges together, without him realising it's you.
Early stages of dating we are testing each other's boundaries, it's normal, but when little niggles become much bigger, how we deal with conflict will make or break any relationship. Bringing love back into flow quickly is an art to building a thriving loving relationship, it's also the glue that holds love together.
Discovering your communication style is the first critical set to recognise the right high-quality man, in advance of meeting him. Recognising how you communicate, will help you to easily understand his communication style, and to know that he is wired and compatible to satisfy your deeper emotional needs beyond chemistry, sexual attraction, shared interests and values. Then you will significantly increase your dating and relationship survival chances! Understanding your personal communication style is your first step.
You now have 2 choices:
Go to 1 below if you are NOT dating, happily single, or remotely interested in another relationship right now. But want the skills in advance of being ready.
Or go to 2, if you are dating.
Now let me explain the perfect chicken and egg dating paradox example. Perhaps this statement resonates with you, particularly if you are NOT ready for another relationship or want to date right now.
E.g., I don’t want another relationship, I only want to focus on myself, my business, and my children (if you do have a family). I am not interested in dating or need any help right now. I just want to focus on myself.
Now think about this question. Would it be more beneficial to become aware of your likely relationship or dating obstacles, before, or after, you feel ready for another relationship? This is the most precious piece of advice you need to know while you are healing your heart and life- do the work, your theory, while you are single! Or waste more valuable time, meeting the wrong men when you are ready.
It took me 20 years to figure out how to attract the right high-quality man, so you don't have to waste any more time making the same mistake women make without realising.
Jo, one client I worked with, dated narcissistic men for 7 years before she took my new toolkit approach.
To discover the 4 steps my clients use to find and attract their high-quality man who will love, value and respect them (without settling for second best) Join my next FREE Masterclass Training WEBINAR
2. If you are ACTIVELY DATING. The majority of women wait to be chosen (hunted) by a man. If you are endlessly chasing dates, feeling lost and want to know how to attract the right high-quality man, learning the skills now to become the chooser in love, join me on the next Masterclass Training Webinar, to discover the 4 steps you need to know to get your most critical dating decision right.
If you no longer want second best (or the scraps and men who treat you like a doormat) and want to meet the right high-quality man, who will love, value and respect you! Let's get you started:
Option 1 - Re-ignite your self-confidence. get the Top 3 Dating Tips right in advance of dating Click here for your download.
Option 2 - Join The Next FREE Masterclass Training Webinar
To uncover your 10% you need to let go of to attract the right high-quality man. And get the 4 steps you will need to know about your toolkit. Click here. to register your spot.
What step will you take, option 1 or 2?
I would love to fill millions of hearts and lives with the love every woman truly deserves! Let yours be one of them!
Karen x
LoveCoachingYou.com
More and more couples are divorcing in retirement. It’s either one of the most painful, emotional and financially life-changing experiences to go through, or it’s a ticket to freedom. But why do people in retirement, nowadays, have an increased chance of filing for divorce?
According to the Office of National Statistics (ONS) dramatic changes in life expectancy have triggered individuals to think if they still want to grow old together. At age 60 or 65, both men and women can still live 30 more years nowadays compared to the early 90's. So, with the kids already old enough to live by themselves, people are thinking "Do I want to live 30 more years of this?"
The Telegraph 8th November 2017 (see link below) mentioned another reason, the "Silver-Fox " phenomenon with men living longer, and still retaining a wandering eye. It also works both ways with women "Cougars", strong independent women, going for the younger man if she is not having her needs fulfilled with her current partner.
Significantly, the figures show that, in stark contrast to other divorce age groups, men over 60 are as likely to file for divorce as women. Overall there were 15,300 people of either gender over the age of 60 getting divorced in 2011 (the last official figures). By contrast in 1991, there were just 8,700.
Perhaps retirement is becoming a later-life crisis? We are thinking of ourselves if we don't have kids to take care of or have needs that aren't fully satisfied. Or, there’s the so-called "bucket-list". Travel the world or move to another country.
As a Relationship and Self-Transformation Coach, Holistic Health and Well-being Therapist, and my personal journey over 20 years I discovered what DOES WORK finding and building a more loving and happier relationship. I now share the most rewarding relationship of my life with my husband I have now been with for almost 10 years. Speaking from experience and 7 years of research to find my answers, qualified education and applying what I learned to attract my now life partner to me, if you are considering separation or divorce, whatever your age, wouldn’t it be worth one last shot to invest 2 days of your time, in the Relationship MOT I offer couples, singles or divorced clients looking for a meaningful relationship?
What you learn and discover in just 2-Days will positively transform your approach and future happiness, possibly with your current partner, or someone new. Also, save you valuable time from making the same mistakes (you are unlikely to even be aware of). Not forgetting the 75K-150K plus your divorce will cost you with legal fees, splitting your assets, pensions, selling your house or buying a new home, and of course the emotional heartache to everyone, including your family.
The 2 Day New Relationship Skills Coaching Program will certainly empower and motivate you to accelerate your life in the right direction. You would discover the informed answers how to BUILD a much stronger, happier and more loving relationship together. Or how to RECOGNISE, FIND and ATTRACT someone new that is right for you.
Lastly, these are some wise words you may wish to consider. Always choose your next steps in love wisely. Your partner or any new potential partner you invest your heart, emotions, energy and life in, will impact your health, happiness, future aspirations, your dreams and the rest of your life, so choose love wisely! Most people don't know how to RECOGNISE if someone is right for them, the most important decision you will make before you start to date, or fall in love again. Then it's too late to turn back.
Before you repeat the same mistakes (you may not even be aware of) consider investing 2 days of your life to take your own relationship MOT that will save you years of more heartache. What price would you pay, if you knew you could discover the knowledge, positively accelerate your happiness and relationship journey, if you could find your RIGHT relationship instead?
Please note, that coaching is NOT a therapy. Coaching will empower, motivate and accelerate the choices you make, to help you move from where you are now, to where you want to be so much faster than you will on your own.
Contact Karen to arrange your FREE 15- minute no obligation introduction call to help you decide on your next steps click here. Or discover when the next 2 Day Relationship Masterclass is coming up click here.
Telegraph link and resource:
https://www.telegraph.co.uk/women/sex/divorce/10225335/Til-retirement-us-do-part-silver-splitter-divorces-up-by-three-quarters-in-generation.html
We learn new skills for our job without hesitation, start a new hobby, learn to drive because each one has a purpose. When we learn something new, we also push ourselves outside of our comfort zone. It feels unfamiliar, uncomfortable because our brain is processing something new. When you repeat any new behaviour enough times, it then becomes automatic. I bet if you have been driving a while now, you do it automatically. If you knew you could change your life in an unbelievable way that would become automatic, would you learn a new skill? Yes or no?
The successful business women or entrepreneurial super mums I am meeting, who are driven, motivated and living a big life, also very feminine in style and energy, are mostly ALL missing one key ingredient.
What key ingredient? Well, if you believe and know you have so much more potential in YOU and your life (beyond what you could ever imagine right now) and you are determined to live the life you truly deserve and love, you may be intrigued to know......
Perhaps right now you are sabotaging yourself from the life you deserve. From the career or business you want, improved health and happiness, or possibly, your holding yourself back from meeting your Mr Right because of the way you think about men, relationships and yourself.
It's crucial to learn about the way you communicate with YOURSELF with that little voice inside your head, particularly when you’re faced with life challenges, stress, a debilitating health condition, relationship breakdown, losing a loved one, or emotional challenge you may be facing alone. If you are looking to be empowered to overcome your challenge, it's important how you connect to your potential and inner beauty.
Your inner beauty, is the energy you radiate, how you approach your life (anxiously or courageously), your attitude (positive or negative), self-confidence (how you love yourself, look after and value your health, happiness and self-worth) are the KEY ingredients and tools for you to tap into your true potential.
When you consciously learn how to change your thinking, it’s where the MAGIC HAPPENS and your true potential is within greater reach. You become better equipped to discover a much richer, abundant, happier and healthier experience of life, instead of making do where you are now in your life if you want to improve your life.
"Your potential, is a new skill. When you choose to become accountable for your thoughts and actions, step outside your comfort zone as often as you can, you will find your true potential - Karen Marshall".
Remember, when you put your mind to something that's important to you, anything becomes possible, including the life you deserve.
If you aspire to reach your potential, your dreams and goals in life, or you would love to attract and recognise your Mr right, build a more loving and rewarding relationship that works and lasts, stepping outside your comfort zone, is something you need to get comfortable doing. Just take one step at a time, it then becomes so much easier to achieve.
You only have one life, so why not choose a much bigger one with more happiness as your core, key ingredient. Anything is possible, I know so. Not to impress you, but to impress upon you. Yes, when you tap into your potential, push yourself outside your comfort as often as you can, your life turns into one you never imagined would be possible. It did for me, so it can for you too!
Would you love to live the happier and healthier life you truly deserve, or stay where you are right now? Yes or no?
www.LoveCoachingYou.com/health
Christmas and Valentines are key dates in your calendar year when you’re reminded about having a special someone in your life. It’s a time you undoubtedly become aware of what’s missing in your life if your single or divorced, when you see everyone around you sharing it with a special someone.
Imagine, if you could find someone new, you are not only attracted to, aligned with, you can effectively communicate with, in a more loving and happier relationship that works beyond 2 years: what value would you put on finding this gift?
Taking only 2 days out of your busy lifestyle, you could receive all the education, insight, proven coaching strategies and techniques (and knowledge that’s tried and tested over 20 years to discover what does work). That’s if you’ve reached an age in your life, you are prepared to achieve different results, with a potential new partner. Or you may be thinking right now, you don’t know how to even get to first base and attract the right man into your life. This programme will certainly help you too.
I am running through this with you now, to give you this most valuable nugget of information first so I don’t waste your time. If this article has already touched or resonated with you, then read on.
How can we help our future generations to build the right relationship
Love is now more disposable as the Y generation shop for it on Tinder, vs the older Baby Boomers in their 40’s/50’s who continue to remain stuck between old and new traditions. As we age and mature, finding true love becomes more competitive with a lower ratio of available men (the hunters) vs women (waiting to be hunted). An older Mr Extraordinary now has any number of older or younger women to choose from.
For you to stand you to the right man, he needs to recognise you’re a high value woman inside and out. It’s now even more important for entrepreneurial career women (waiting to be hunted) to get it right if you’re looking for extraordinary instead of second best, instead of another failed relationship.
Or, if life is whizzing by and you’re now in your 50’s plus and you are still waiting to found the right man you are aligned and compatible with. To make a relationship work you need to take a different approach if what you are doing right now it’s working.
I was the typical career woman waiting for Mr Right to turn up
Already focused on my career. At 28 I ended my 11-year first-love relationship, simply because we didn’t understand each other’s deeper needs. I was also big time naïve and believed another man would make me happier. It’s the mindset we especially follow in our 20s. But life experience has since taught me otherwise. I in fact became a symptom of society, viewing love as more disposable when I expected to meet Mr Right quite quickly and live happy ever. How wrong I was! My life certainly didn’t turn out how I expected it to. Possibly your life hasn’t turned out the way you expected it to either?
The next 13 years of my adult life 28-41, I considered myself an independent single career woman, trying to survive paying the bills and mortgage, surviving emotionally and mentally living alone without the support of the right partner. I continued dating, having short-term relationships that didn’t last beyond 2 years. Life became even more stressful doing everything alone because the 3 key reasons why career women are not finding Mr Right, below, didn’t even cross my mind.
If you find yourself in your 30’s, 40’s, 50’s and over, it can become harder with broken relationships getting in the way of finding your next special relationship if you are ready to settle down. More obstacles are likely to hold you back e.g. the way you think about men, about relationships, about yourself. Mr Right could be standing right in front of you, but the way you think could be stopping you.
As a qualified Relationship Transformation Coach, my vision is to become the voice that will transform the RELATIONSHIP SURVIVAL REVOLUTION to help thousands or millions of single or divorced career women (or men) in their 30’s, 40’s, 50’s plus. I want to make a difference towards changing societies approach.
If I can help and educate women how they APPROACH FINDING A NEW RELATIONSHIP AND BUILDING ONE THAT WORKS and LASTS, I have done my job. I work with Executive clients either 1-2-1 who are time poor who want a quick solution or with groups of women. Sharing my knowledge and experience will give an accelerated learning experience, if more women (even men) want to AVOID MAKING THE SAME MISTAKES (they are likely to be unaware of).
The 3 key reasons why career women are not finding Mr Right (rightly or wrongly).
As a corporate career woman, I followed societies lead, leaving love to chance because the fairy tale tells us one day we will meet our Prince Charming and will live happy ever after. Society believes we will meet our special someone, but the chances of finding happy ever is faster declining.
Your next step……
Today, my personal journey has become my passion - to help women (or men who also want to avoid making the same mistakes), and sharing 20 years of my dating experience and relationship education. Now condensed into a 2 Day Masterclass Programme. If I can engage more women with my motivational and engaging talks, I dream of changing more lives. With my qualifications and experience of 5 different therapy interventions of the Mind-Body-Energy connection, my health and well-being experience also supports clients through their journey. What makes me unique, I truly understand how to transform lives much faster than clients can achieve alone.
Why not come along and register to attend a FREE Webinars or a Coaching Taster Events in January/February 2017 to experience some coaching exercises and how the 2 Day programme can help you. My promise is to transform your approach to FIND, BUILD and NURTURE the most rewarding relationship in your life into the future you dream of finding right now.
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My Story
I thought I would have my own family, be happily married by my mid 30’s, which in fact turned into a decade of disappointment in love, dating the wrong guys, and relationships that didn’t last beyond 2 years. During this 10-year period, when I was 33, I decided enough was enough and I took control of my own destiny and future.
One significant relationship that broke me was the catalyst for me to transform my own life. Over 6 years I immersed myself in studying, learning, re-educating myself to BECOME THE BEST PARTNER I COULD BECOME! I walked my talk, applied what I learned in my life and noticed different results with men. I was determined Mr Right would not want to let me go when I found him!
Walking onto a beautiful golden beach in the Bahamas, on February 14th 2014 my life changed in an unbelievable way. It was Valentines Day and my dream had finally came true when I married for the first time in my life. I was 47. It was the most magical day of my life because I had worked so hard to become the best partner I could become for Dave, who is my Mr Extraordinary and has changed my life in an unimaginable way. I am the original career woman Baby Boomer (without my own children) now married to a divorcee with his own family I am very blessed to share and be part of already over 8 ½ years. My life has significantly changed because I took control to FIND, RECOGNISE, BUILD AND NURTURE a more loving and happier relationship I wanted.
Something needs to change if relationships are going to survive. Is Christmas or Valentines your reminder to do something different if you don’t want to keep making the same mistakes?
*The Daily Mail 6th Dec 2016 reported from the Office of National Statistics that Marriage and Divorce as it is lowest since 1970’s. Relationships are no longer surviving now we are living together longer and weaker relationships continue to end.