It is the biggest adjustment you will go through, learning to live alone again, learning about yourself and living independently, as you look after your children (if you have a family). It's a massive life-transforming learning curve while you are coping with your emotions, and negative thoughts while finding your way forward.
Divorce recovery can be a slow healing process especially if you had a toxic relationship leaving your self-confidence at rock bottom. Whether you are at the beginning or a few years into your divorce recovery, the way you feel about yourself, men, and your relationships will take you down two roads. Either a continued negative spiral I wouldn't want anyone to endure, or the catalyst to positively transform your happiness and mindset that will lead to the new future you truly deserve.
Here at Love Coaching You, we understand that there’s the loneliness, the feeling of not being whole; after all the disillusionment, pain and heartache in your marriage.
There is also the fear of being single. How will I cope? It’s scary to start over by yourself after depending on your marriage. You may have merged your identity so closely with your spouse’s – defining yourself as half of a couple, not as an individual – that you can’t imagine continuing on your own.
Perhaps you don’t know if you’re strong enough to take care of yourself without a spouse’s help. Or you’re ashamed of singlehood in a society defined by relationships. But don’t worry, single or divorced for a while, you will start to feel YOU again.
Take your time and effort for your part, as it can be challenging to reinvent yourself as a single person, but through patience and positive thinking, you can and will do it, if you are ready to learn about yourself - to experience a new way of living, feeling, behaving mentally and emotionally.
If you no longer want pain, the heartache and you are ready to shift your happiness. If you want your own business for greater financial freedom, invest in property for your security, or progress your career to regain control of your heart and life, and support your family, we are the right experts at LoveCoachingYou to give you the priceless toolkit you will need.
Hello my name is Karen Marshall, I am a relationship and love expert, high-qualified well-being expert, coach, mentor, trainer and consultant. I understand what works and doesn't because I too hit rock bottom to personally experience becoming the Best Me and what it takes to do this. I know what works to overcome adversity, and trauma to rebuild myself mentally and emotionally.
Transforming the way I feel, think and behave was a life-changing gift I learned to master, because I no longer wanted any more heartache or pain. I then made the decision to become an expert in love, to learn the skills to become the chooser in love to personally find a healthy, loving, thriving relationship. Today, I have been with my husband, the love of my life, for over 14 years, in the most rewarding and loving relationship I never believed would be possible. I want this for you too!
If you are ready to fill your heart and life with the gift and toolkit available to every woman (with drive and determination) you will become the captain of your boat and life. When you work with me the expert who has achieved the results you want. I have walked my talk, from rock bottom to living the life I love is what makes me unique and the right relationship and love expert to help you achieve the results you want. If you are serious about shifting how you feel, your heart and your life contact LoveCoachingYou.com
Now is the time, whether you are divorced or single, to learn the toolkit, the first step to shifting your mental and emotional happiness, that will in turn positively impact your approach in business, love and with men.
Looking forward to hearing from you.
Loving wishes
Karen Marshall x
LoveCoachingYou.com
If you are a driven, and determined successful woman and value your self-development, regardless of where you are on your dating or early relationship journey, understanding the dating paradox will accelerate your dating success. And determine your relationship's happiness!
I hear most women say this to me. “I am not ready to start dating yet, so I don’t need any help.” It is absolutely your paradox.
During this chapter of your life, when you don’t feel ready, it’s the perfect time to do the work, to be ready.
Why? Have you heard the dilemma question; which comes first, the chicken or the egg? Whether you want to get your dating decision right or build a more loving and healthy relationship that works. What comes first? New relationship skills, or dating skills?
Yes, it is key to work on new relationship communication skills IN ADVANCE of dating. In advance, of being ready for another relationship. So I would highly recommend if you are a woman who values your self-growth and development, learning a new toolkit while you are single, then you will get very different dating results with the quality men you attract to you and the skills to build a healthy thriving relationship that works and can survive.
If you are dating. And your previous relationship history has left you feeling fearful deep down of getting hurt again. Be warned. You are 98% likely to repeat the same patterns and mistakes in another relationship (without realising it) unless you shift your dating approach. Applying a new toolkit anyone can learn especially if you love learning about yourself will accelerate finding and building the loving relationship every woman deserves.
You will reset your inner compass to discern if a man is compatible with you on a much deeper emotional level before you meet him.
It's easy to discern from out the outside how a man makes you feel, but what counts is on the inside, the way he communicates, values, respects and shows you love. You will also become the better partner for him and more easily navigate your challenges together, without him realising it's you.
Early stages of dating we are testing each other's boundaries, it's normal, but when little niggles become much bigger, how we deal with conflict will make or break any relationship. Bringing love back into flow quickly is an art to building a thriving loving relationship, it's also the glue that holds love together.
Discovering your communication style is the first critical set to recognise the right high-quality man, in advance of meeting him. Recognising how you communicate, will help you to easily understand his communication style, and to know that he is wired and compatible to satisfy your deeper emotional needs beyond chemistry, sexual attraction, shared interests and values. Then you will significantly increase your dating and relationship survival chances! Understanding your personal communication style is your first step.
You now have 2 choices:
Go to 1 below if you are NOT dating, happily single, or remotely interested in another relationship right now. But want the skills in advance of being ready.
Or go to 2, if you are dating.
Now let me explain the perfect chicken and egg dating paradox example. Perhaps this statement resonates with you, particularly if you are NOT ready for another relationship or want to date right now.
E.g., I don’t want another relationship, I only want to focus on myself, my business, and my children (if you do have a family). I am not interested in dating or need any help right now. I just want to focus on myself.
Now think about this question. Would it be more beneficial to become aware of your likely relationship or dating obstacles, before, or after, you feel ready for another relationship? This is the most precious piece of advice you need to know while you are healing your heart and life- do the work, your theory, while you are single! Or waste more valuable time, meeting the wrong men when you are ready.
It took me 20 years to figure out how to attract the right high-quality man, so you don't have to waste any more time making the same mistake women make without realising.
Jo, one client I worked with, dated narcissistic men for 7 years before she took my new toolkit approach.
To discover the 4 steps my clients use to find and attract their high-quality man who will love, value and respect them (without settling for second best) Join my next FREE Masterclass Training WEBINAR
2. If you are ACTIVELY DATING. The majority of women wait to be chosen (hunted) by a man. If you are endlessly chasing dates, feeling lost and want to know how to attract the right high-quality man, learning the skills now to become the chooser in love, join me on the next Masterclass Training Webinar, to discover the 4 steps you need to know to get your most critical dating decision right.
If you no longer want second best (or the scraps and men who treat you like a doormat) and want to meet the right high-quality man, who will love, value and respect you! Let's get you started:
Option 1 - Re-ignite your self-confidence. get the Top 3 Dating Tips right in advance of dating Click here for your download.
Option 2 - Join The Next FREE Masterclass Training Webinar
To uncover your 10% you need to let go of to attract the right high-quality man. And get the 4 steps you will need to know about your toolkit. Click here. to register your spot.
What step will you take, option 1 or 2?
I would love to fill millions of hearts and lives with the love every woman truly deserves! Let yours be one of them!
Karen x
LoveCoachingYou.com
If you are a high-achieving woman or supermum and looking for relationship or dating answers to super-accelerate your results with men.
Would you take your driving test without your theory? To take a new approach to love, it's important to understand if you are sabotaging your chances with men.
Who you choose to date is the most critical decision you will make. Especially if you are unmarried, want to settle down, have a family, or share your life with a decent man who will love and cherish you the way you deserve to be treated.
Or you may be divorced and want to get your next relationship decision right (now, in the future, or when you do feel ready to get back out there).
If you don’t make time to learn your theory in advance of dating, in advance of another relationship, the steps to recognise that Mr Right is right for you and capable of communicating with you to support you emotionally through the ups and downs of life. If you don't get this right, you are highly likely going to repeat the same mistakes or fall into another relationship that is wrong for you (without realising it).
When you do recognise how a man communicates with you from the time you start speaking, you will recognise his style over your first 3-5 dates. If you have learned your theory, you will instinctively recognise the right man's style to know he can support your deeper emotional needs.
It's equally important you get clear about your postcode and address I have already covered in Step 1.
The secret is to prepare yourself in advance for dating, while you are single. Then when the time is right to start dating, you will get your most critical dating decision right.
Stop wasting your time and life with the wrong men, learn your theory first.
History will repeat itself if you continue to get the same results in love.
If you are ready to recognise, attract and build your most loving high quality relationship that will thrive and survive, how well do you communicate with yourself positively or negatively? If you don't understand how you communicate with yourself, how can you expect a man to understand you?
Top Tip - Learn about your communication style, and it will be easier to recognise Mr Right, your high-quality man's communication style is right for you.
For greater clarity. How well do you communicate with men you date or fall in love with on a scale of zero (=lowest) up to 10 (10=you are really self-aware of the way you communicate)? What number are you?
If you have given yourself a lower number, you may feel insecure, and lack self-confidence about the way you communicate with yourself and men.
If you value your self-development, are committed to transforming your heart and life, and want to get it right in love:
Or sign up for the Top 3 Dating Tips if men are ghosting you, are unreliable, or don't commit.
Your love quote today
Love is of all passions the strongest, to attack simultaneously the head, heart and all the senses.
Lao Tzu
My best advice. Learn how to become the Best You, to reach your 8 or 9 out of 10, and discover how you communicate to better understand how a man communicates. Then you will become the best date, best girlfriend, partner, and best wife to your Mr Right, your high-quality man when he does arrive in your life.
With loving wishes
Karen Marshall x
Whether you are ready or NOT for a relationship, or you are actively dating, deep down you may have a fear of being hurt again if you have been let down by men too many times. If you no longer want to repeat the same relationship mistakes, you could be making the same mistakes without realising.
If you are a high-achieving woman who values your self-development, you are determined and ready to discover a new proven, tried, and tested approach that works, I am the right expert to take you from where you are now to where you want to be in weeks, noticing different results with men.
I hear so many women say to me, they are too busy for a relationship because it's an easy distraction to avoid our feelings inside. Instead, we focus on work, family, and other priorities and default to a self-protection mode keeping busy.
We tell others consciously (e.g, that we are happy being single) but subconsciously (our deeper fears will keep us stuck for many reasons). The fears you continue to hold deep down will stay with you, as you start dating, or begin a new relationship. Don't let your fears be the cause of another relationship ending, or leaving you heartbroken. As an expert, this is one of the key reasons we sabotage our chances in love you will recognise when I show you.
Or take note. your subconscious, I call your genie, will continue to bring you what you wish for if you believe deep down e.g. a man will hurt you or let you down. Then guess who will keep turning up?!
If you are actively dating - Would you take your driving test without doing the theory first? I know this may seem hard because dating is fun and exciting but it is also heartbreaking when you get it wrong. If you now want different results in love, do the work while you are single and put dating on pause for a few weeks as you learn your theory.
Step 1 - Top Tip
How will you know Mr Right is right for you and is capable of building a thriving relationship with you?
It is critical to get your dating decision right. Without any understanding of your postcode and address, you will keep driving down the wrong roads, get lost, attract similar men you want to avoid, or your relationships will not work out. To decide what is important to you about the man you want to date and share your life with, if you are ready to settle down, get clear about your correct address and postcode.
To accelerate your dating and relationship happiness, discover your postcode and address. You will also need to understand in Step 2, how to recognise if a man can communicate to satisfy your deeper emotional needs.
Love quote today - Love is friendship that has caught fire. It is quiet understanding, mutual confidence, sharing and forgiving. It is loyalty, through good and bad times. It settles for less than perfection and makes allowances for human weaknesses. Ann Landers.
Also get:
Your Top 3 Dating Tips Free Download - If men are ghosting you, unreliable, or don't commit
Or join the next free Webinar - The 4 Steps My Clients Use To Attract A High-Quality Man Who Will Love, Value and Respect You.
With loving wishes
Karen Marshall x
If you are a task-focused accomplished businessman, a proud man, you may be very intelligent and socially skilled too. When it comes to your personal life, women and love, you may not be having much luck if you are divorced or single.
If you are more confused than ever about women
And you want to avoid making the same relationship mistakes. As a Relationship Expert and a woman who understands women, I accelerate results with men before you start seriously dating to recognise your (hot crazy matrix unicorn - video below) to find the right woman beyond looks and chemistry. The skills I share with men who want to attract the right woman, also apply to you if you want to strengthen your relationship with your girlfriend or wife if you are having problems not understanding each other. Even if you are recently engaged or married, this blog could be your greatest gift to understand what it takes to keep hold of your happy ever after!
Historically, men are the natural hunters and women want to be hunted. As a man, you also need the right toolkit before you are ready to go hunting to attract the right woman now or in the near future. The same toolkit will accelerate your results to build a much stronger connection with the special woman in your life for your relationship to thrive (if this is you right now).
If your business and job take up a lot of your time
You might be purposely keeping yourself busy without realising it. Filling your diary is a great way to avoid finding a new partner or avoid being with your partner at home. Sports is also a great distraction if you enjoy keeping fit, running, cycling, triathlons. Subconsciously you are also likely to be protecting yourself from another painful or threatening experience your brain is programmed to help you avoid - another woman. My advice to every man, learn about women from a woman. Or end your relationship and the same problems will show up again in another future relationship.
Imagine for one minute if you applied a new toolkit approach
You will attract your unicorn (see video below), or rebuild the one you have. Get this right, you will change the course of your future and sex life. If you have heard the saying, "A happy wife is a happy life" it is true with any woman. If you understand how to find and build a strong relationship the right woman will jump out to you (or you will recognise what you have is already with your existing partner). Think about it?
Have you ever considered what type of woman you do want to attract? Do you really know who your Mrs Right is (beyond sex and chemistry)? Or what was it about your partner that attracted you to them? If you don't know this answer. It is similar to getting into a car without a sat nav or map. You will be unsure of your destination and possibly take the longest route and continue to get lost. Or get clear about your address and you will go straight there. Which journey would you prefer?
Your Self-Fulfilling Prophecy
Love is exciting, fulfilling and rewarding when we get it right. If, however, you are a man in your late 30’s, mid-40s or 50’s everything changes if you are still unmarried, separated or divorced.
Now for one moment imagine your life is a film. Let me put your film called ‘Your relationship story so far’ on pause right now. Remember, the fairy tale storybooks we grew up reading or watching on TV, they all have a lot to answer for. Why? because it’s the one belief we consistently reinforce to be 100% true and society tells us that you are Prince Charming and one day you will sweep the woman you love off her feet. You will want to look after her and make sure she is happy.
Well, your fairy tale and the life you are living right now may not be close to any fairy tale. It is however called your self-fulfilling prophecy. What do I mean self-fulfilling prophecy? What you believe to be true about love, relationships, women, yourself, will keep showing up for you. The relationship experience you have will keep repeating itself unless you edit and overwrite your database with new files that work.
Here are just a few old data files you may like to overwrite. For example. You believe a woman will hurt you, let you down, all the best women are taken, women will walk all over you, or you cannot bat above your station. These are just some of the typical beliefs you may keep rewinding, replaying or repeating.
Here’s a new example to consider. When you learn how to access your disempowering files you can easily overwrite them with new data that works with your new self-fulfilling prophecy. Are you ready to overwrite your old files to find, recognise and attract your unicorn? Do you also want to know how to build a relationship that can thrive together?
To help you reset your relationship compass in a completely new direction that will prepare you in advance of meeting Mrs Right and unicorn. It only takes 1 or 3 months if you value your personal growth.
Instead of filling your time and life keeping busy or to avoid being alone or feeling lonely. Unless you get clear about your new postcode, you are 98% likely to repeat the same mistakes in a new future relationship.
Where are you right now? Here's a couple of questions to get you thinking:
If you are ready to improve your life with women, you don't want therapy or counselling book your free 20-30 minute call today and let’s have a chat if you are time poor!
About Karen Marshall
Today a qualified and experienced Relationship Expert. Coach and Wellbeing Expert in the mind, body and energy and the steps to accelerate your relationship results!
To live your best life ever, I will help you to find and attract your unicorn relationship you will understand when you watch the Hot Crazy Matrix from YouTube featuring Dana Mclendon (this version is without the advert). Men love this!
If you don’t get this part of your life handled, how will it impact your future?
Let’s have a chat if you would like to book your free 20-30 minute Discovery Call today
Or discover what women want when you complete this online programme. The same principles apply for women and men.
If you want to find out how to accelerate your next steps and avoid wasting any more of your life attracting the wrong women.
Wishing you much happiness and the love you truly deserve!
Karen Marshall
LoveCoachingYou.com
07590 221951
If the average age of divorce for men is 45 and it's 42 for women in the UK* should we continue to accept the status quo?
In society today we only hear about two relationship extremes. A lovely wedding. It will now cost you an average of £27K - for just one day.** Should couples also include in their wedding costs, an empowering 2 days to future proof their relationship survival? What would be more valuable?
You will never consider the thought of divorce when you meet someone new you have amazing chemistry with, or when you first get married because you feel so in love. If you want a thriving relationship that will last, the most important reason why you should invest in your relationship happiness at the early stages of love is to future proof your relationship success. Taking this first easy step will especially help you to deal with conflict to more easily bring love back into flow very quickly. Also, strengthen your relationship foundations from the outset. To understand your Emotional Intelligence number on a scale of zero to 10, keep reading.....
Making the decision to take a relationship EQ MOT will transform your life and your relationship happiness. If you also want to avoid becoming a divorce statistic, if you are fearful deep down of making the same mistakes with someone new, or your current relationship it is time to develop your emotional intelligence (I will help you further down this post)? If you understand the pattern you personally follow when you argue (any previous/current relationship will give you your answer). If you are unable to understand each other's perspective, pass blame, take responsibility for your emotions, I would advise you to take a relationship MOT before you start dating, whether you are in a new relationship, engaged or have been married a number of years. Keeping the magic of love alive needs working on or you will repeat the same behaviour with another person (that could take you years to find because the grass is not always greener the other side of the fence). Once you discover the priceless insight on how to clear an argument, speak your truth and better understand how you tick and communicated, you will begin to positively react, respond and listen differently to a new partner or the relationship you may want to save or rebuild right now.
Consider these questions for a moment. How long would you let yourself bleed before you put a plaster or bandage over your wound? How long would you endure a health condition before you see a doctor? How long would you struggle at work trying to understand a new piece of software without going on a course to speed up your learning process? How much longer do you want to endure relationship or emotional unhappiness?
The impact of divorce or a relationship breakdown only becomes real when it happens. Including your legal fees, splitting your assets, home and financials (all relative to your situation). It will possibly cost you 3 or 4 times the average wedding day spend in total (once you have paid your family lawyer (approx £1200 for a straight forward divorce). The financial cost, of course, depends on your personal circumstances and financial situation. Your emotional intelligence will help you to keep afloat because you then have the devasting emotionally and mental anguish of loss, hurt and pain to deal with when you are trying to support your children's wellbeing too (if you have a family). It will hit you harder, especially if your EQ is under-developed. if this is the case your children will suffer too. Your EQ intelligence is your foundation to cope with any life challenge when it hits you hard. So wherever you are on your love pathway, starting something new, consider the skills you need to develop your EQ. If you want or have a family, they will learn by your example if you already have the right EQ toolkit - if you have been divorced, what to save your relationship or start a new one!
Possibly you could start a new relationship, save or rebuild your relationship with a new awareness of each other before you hit problems. For the solution of how you do this, I help clients quickly identify, following my unique tailored 4 step toolkit, if separation or divorce is the best way forward. I help clients save their relationship or before they are ready to start dating, I prepare them with the insight and wisdom they need to make the right informed choice critical - to recognise and attract someone extraordinary (I know so and the clients who have met the love of their life will tell you how important this step is too). If you want a fresh, proven, tried and tested approach that is not Relate Counselling or Talking Therapies (will help you chat through past or current issues) , Walking my talk as a Relationship Expert over 20 years I understand the solution and have created a unique new professionally qualified approach that works. The 4 steps I introduce over a personal 1-2-1 discovery session.
If you are ready to MOT your relationship skills you will get radically different results (over just 2 days) when you apply what you learn. It's an investment every human being should consider! Remember coaching will empower you, it is not a therapy and one day I hope my unique 4 steps healthy communication coaching programme will be the preferred go-to alternative to Relate Counselling (if therapy is not right for you).
Strengthening your emotional intelligence is also a precious life tool and skill to reach your true potential in life and love. You will take back control of your emotions more quickly if you are emotionally stuck, exhausted, anxious or depressed. Take greater steps toward in your business ambitions and life achievements. What you learn and how you apply your emotional intelligence, will positively impact every area of your life and the people you communicate with. You have everything to gain!
This is the most important tip for today so remember it. When you learn to become the best version of you, you will also become the best partner you could be to build, save, or start a new a more lasting relationship for you and it to thrive.
You are likely to continue as you are today, nothing will change. You will possibly continue to feel depressed or stressed for longer, overwhelmed, struggle emotionally, feel empty without the loving relationship you truly deserve, unable to cope or be productive as you would like to at work. If life has hit you hard you may feel the victim for longer if you have been heartbroken and your emotions are out of control. If you have been single or divorced a while, you feel lonely and alone, it can feel like you have no purpose (on the treadmill) without the special someone you want to share your life, dreams and future with.
A coaching question to help you understand your EQ number today .......
On a scale of zero up to 10 (10=the best you could be at communicating), how good are you at dealing with conflict with your husband, wife, boyfriend, girlfriend, fiance (or consider a previous relationship or another family member, work colleague you know)? What number are you?
If you are an 8 or 9 you are well developed. Anything below, imagine if you invested just 2 days of your life, how you will develop your EQ and transform your life?
I would love to inspire you to develop your new EQ toolkit every human being needs to learn.
To book your Emotional Intelligence Relationship 30 minute Discovery Call today, you can book here online immediately. Simply click this link.
Or start your FREE 90 minute Online Relationship Coaching EQ Programme today!
Which well-ness contact in your business do you know I could contact to introduce my New You staff engagement and wellbeing programme to? Please email me karen@lovecoachingyou.com or text 07590 221951. Imagine the personal and profitable impact on your business, staff and personal happiness if every employee had their own Emotional Intelligence Toolkit. Staff would want to come into work, feel more productive if you care about their wellbeing.
With loving wishes and much gratitude.
Karenx
LoveCoachingYou.com
KarenMarshallCoach.com if you have everything but no one special to share it with you.
* according to the ONS (Office of National Statistics)
** Bride Magazine
More and more couples are divorcing in retirement. It’s either one of the most painful, emotional and financially life-changing experiences to go through, or it’s a ticket to freedom. But why do people in retirement, nowadays, have an increased chance of filing for divorce?
According to the Office of National Statistics (ONS) dramatic changes in life expectancy have triggered individuals to think if they still want to grow old together. At age 60 or 65, both men and women can still live 30 more years nowadays compared to the early 90's. So, with the kids already old enough to live by themselves, people are thinking "Do I want to live 30 more years of this?"
The Telegraph 8th November 2017 (see link below) mentioned another reason, the "Silver-Fox " phenomenon with men living longer, and still retaining a wandering eye. It also works both ways with women "Cougars", strong independent women, going for the younger man if she is not having her needs fulfilled with her current partner.
Significantly, the figures show that, in stark contrast to other divorce age groups, men over 60 are as likely to file for divorce as women. Overall there were 15,300 people of either gender over the age of 60 getting divorced in 2011 (the last official figures). By contrast in 1991, there were just 8,700.
Perhaps retirement is becoming a later-life crisis? We are thinking of ourselves if we don't have kids to take care of or have needs that aren't fully satisfied. Or, there’s the so-called "bucket-list". Travel the world or move to another country.
As a Relationship and Self-Transformation Coach, Holistic Health and Well-being Therapist, and my personal journey over 20 years I discovered what DOES WORK finding and building a more loving and happier relationship. I now share the most rewarding relationship of my life with my husband I have now been with for almost 10 years. Speaking from experience and 7 years of research to find my answers, qualified education and applying what I learned to attract my now life partner to me, if you are considering separation or divorce, whatever your age, wouldn’t it be worth one last shot to invest 2 days of your time, in the Relationship MOT I offer couples, singles or divorced clients looking for a meaningful relationship?
What you learn and discover in just 2-Days will positively transform your approach and future happiness, possibly with your current partner, or someone new. Also, save you valuable time from making the same mistakes (you are unlikely to even be aware of). Not forgetting the 75K-150K plus your divorce will cost you with legal fees, splitting your assets, pensions, selling your house or buying a new home, and of course the emotional heartache to everyone, including your family.
The 2 Day New Relationship Skills Coaching Program will certainly empower and motivate you to accelerate your life in the right direction. You would discover the informed answers how to BUILD a much stronger, happier and more loving relationship together. Or how to RECOGNISE, FIND and ATTRACT someone new that is right for you.
Lastly, these are some wise words you may wish to consider. Always choose your next steps in love wisely. Your partner or any new potential partner you invest your heart, emotions, energy and life in, will impact your health, happiness, future aspirations, your dreams and the rest of your life, so choose love wisely! Most people don't know how to RECOGNISE if someone is right for them, the most important decision you will make before you start to date, or fall in love again. Then it's too late to turn back.
Before you repeat the same mistakes (you may not even be aware of) consider investing 2 days of your life to take your own relationship MOT that will save you years of more heartache. What price would you pay, if you knew you could discover the knowledge, positively accelerate your happiness and relationship journey, if you could find your RIGHT relationship instead?
Please note, that coaching is NOT a therapy. Coaching will empower, motivate and accelerate the choices you make, to help you move from where you are now, to where you want to be so much faster than you will on your own.
Contact Karen to arrange your FREE 15- minute no obligation introduction call to help you decide on your next steps click here. Or discover when the next 2 Day Relationship Masterclass is coming up click here.
Telegraph link and resource:
https://www.telegraph.co.uk/women/sex/divorce/10225335/Til-retirement-us-do-part-silver-splitter-divorces-up-by-three-quarters-in-generation.html
Christmas and Valentines are key dates in your calendar year when you’re reminded about having a special someone in your life. It’s a time you undoubtedly become aware of what’s missing in your life if your single or divorced, when you see everyone around you sharing it with a special someone.
Imagine, if you could find someone new, you are not only attracted to, aligned with, you can effectively communicate with, in a more loving and happier relationship that works beyond 2 years: what value would you put on finding this gift?
Taking only 2 days out of your busy lifestyle, you could receive all the education, insight, proven coaching strategies and techniques (and knowledge that’s tried and tested over 20 years to discover what does work). That’s if you’ve reached an age in your life, you are prepared to achieve different results, with a potential new partner. Or you may be thinking right now, you don’t know how to even get to first base and attract the right man into your life. This programme will certainly help you too.
I am running through this with you now, to give you this most valuable nugget of information first so I don’t waste your time. If this article has already touched or resonated with you, then read on.
How can we help our future generations to build the right relationship
Love is now more disposable as the Y generation shop for it on Tinder, vs the older Baby Boomers in their 40’s/50’s who continue to remain stuck between old and new traditions. As we age and mature, finding true love becomes more competitive with a lower ratio of available men (the hunters) vs women (waiting to be hunted). An older Mr Extraordinary now has any number of older or younger women to choose from.
For you to stand you to the right man, he needs to recognise you’re a high value woman inside and out. It’s now even more important for entrepreneurial career women (waiting to be hunted) to get it right if you’re looking for extraordinary instead of second best, instead of another failed relationship.
Or, if life is whizzing by and you’re now in your 50’s plus and you are still waiting to found the right man you are aligned and compatible with. To make a relationship work you need to take a different approach if what you are doing right now it’s working.
I was the typical career woman waiting for Mr Right to turn up
Already focused on my career. At 28 I ended my 11-year first-love relationship, simply because we didn’t understand each other’s deeper needs. I was also big time naïve and believed another man would make me happier. It’s the mindset we especially follow in our 20s. But life experience has since taught me otherwise. I in fact became a symptom of society, viewing love as more disposable when I expected to meet Mr Right quite quickly and live happy ever. How wrong I was! My life certainly didn’t turn out how I expected it to. Possibly your life hasn’t turned out the way you expected it to either?
The next 13 years of my adult life 28-41, I considered myself an independent single career woman, trying to survive paying the bills and mortgage, surviving emotionally and mentally living alone without the support of the right partner. I continued dating, having short-term relationships that didn’t last beyond 2 years. Life became even more stressful doing everything alone because the 3 key reasons why career women are not finding Mr Right, below, didn’t even cross my mind.
If you find yourself in your 30’s, 40’s, 50’s and over, it can become harder with broken relationships getting in the way of finding your next special relationship if you are ready to settle down. More obstacles are likely to hold you back e.g. the way you think about men, about relationships, about yourself. Mr Right could be standing right in front of you, but the way you think could be stopping you.
As a qualified Relationship Transformation Coach, my vision is to become the voice that will transform the RELATIONSHIP SURVIVAL REVOLUTION to help thousands or millions of single or divorced career women (or men) in their 30’s, 40’s, 50’s plus. I want to make a difference towards changing societies approach.
If I can help and educate women how they APPROACH FINDING A NEW RELATIONSHIP AND BUILDING ONE THAT WORKS and LASTS, I have done my job. I work with Executive clients either 1-2-1 who are time poor who want a quick solution or with groups of women. Sharing my knowledge and experience will give an accelerated learning experience, if more women (even men) want to AVOID MAKING THE SAME MISTAKES (they are likely to be unaware of).
The 3 key reasons why career women are not finding Mr Right (rightly or wrongly).
As a corporate career woman, I followed societies lead, leaving love to chance because the fairy tale tells us one day we will meet our Prince Charming and will live happy ever after. Society believes we will meet our special someone, but the chances of finding happy ever is faster declining.
Your next step……
Today, my personal journey has become my passion - to help women (or men who also want to avoid making the same mistakes), and sharing 20 years of my dating experience and relationship education. Now condensed into a 2 Day Masterclass Programme. If I can engage more women with my motivational and engaging talks, I dream of changing more lives. With my qualifications and experience of 5 different therapy interventions of the Mind-Body-Energy connection, my health and well-being experience also supports clients through their journey. What makes me unique, I truly understand how to transform lives much faster than clients can achieve alone.
Why not come along and register to attend a FREE Webinars or a Coaching Taster Events in January/February 2017 to experience some coaching exercises and how the 2 Day programme can help you. My promise is to transform your approach to FIND, BUILD and NURTURE the most rewarding relationship in your life into the future you dream of finding right now.
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My Story
I thought I would have my own family, be happily married by my mid 30’s, which in fact turned into a decade of disappointment in love, dating the wrong guys, and relationships that didn’t last beyond 2 years. During this 10-year period, when I was 33, I decided enough was enough and I took control of my own destiny and future.
One significant relationship that broke me was the catalyst for me to transform my own life. Over 6 years I immersed myself in studying, learning, re-educating myself to BECOME THE BEST PARTNER I COULD BECOME! I walked my talk, applied what I learned in my life and noticed different results with men. I was determined Mr Right would not want to let me go when I found him!
Walking onto a beautiful golden beach in the Bahamas, on February 14th 2014 my life changed in an unbelievable way. It was Valentines Day and my dream had finally came true when I married for the first time in my life. I was 47. It was the most magical day of my life because I had worked so hard to become the best partner I could become for Dave, who is my Mr Extraordinary and has changed my life in an unimaginable way. I am the original career woman Baby Boomer (without my own children) now married to a divorcee with his own family I am very blessed to share and be part of already over 8 ½ years. My life has significantly changed because I took control to FIND, RECOGNISE, BUILD AND NURTURE a more loving and happier relationship I wanted.
Something needs to change if relationships are going to survive. Is Christmas or Valentines your reminder to do something different if you don’t want to keep making the same mistakes?
*The Daily Mail 6th Dec 2016 reported from the Office of National Statistics that Marriage and Divorce as it is lowest since 1970’s. Relationships are no longer surviving now we are living together longer and weaker relationships continue to end.
Finding love isn’t always easy if you are a woman in your late 30’s, 40’s or 50’s+ and you find yourself single or divorced a while and you want to avoid more heartache. But get this. You still have an amazing gift – your FREEDOM TO CHOOSE.
If you have never married before, would love to settle down, or you have been divorced a while with children and co-parenting with an ex. partner and you are considering dating. You may find it hard living alone, coping through the ups and downs of life, supporting yourself financially, emotionally and mentally. The right life skills would give you the emotional scaffolding to feel stronger inside and also help you to better support your children as you lead them by a new healthy communication example.
There are many times you may feel vulnerable living as a single woman or parent. These such times you would love to be loved and cherished. It is also often too easy to reach out to someone new if you are feeling needy of being loved. Be warned, you are also likely to get hurt again.
Today I want to motivate you with a new choice to find someone extraordinary if you are prepared to help yourself and do what it takes to change your life into a much happier, more loving and fulfilling future you truly deserve.
There are a lot of amazing men out there, but first you need to take responsibility for your 50% of the relationship you want in your life, particularly if you have been heartbroken too many times. What do I mean? It is far to easy to pass blame to a partner if he didn't meet your needs. It is also your responsibility to consider what part did you play in your previous relationships break down for it to end. Did you take responsibility for your emotions instead of telling a partner they upset you?
There are many reasons relationships end, you may have been left the victim, but also you may be sabotaging your relationship(s) without realising it. Your subconscious could be protecting you from being hurt again. e.g. you may push someone away from you because they are getting too close emotionally for the fear of being hurt again.
When you begin to listen much more loudly to the words you use, how you communicate and talk to yourself inside your head, what you say and how you speak to your colleagues at work, your friends and family. Do you talk positively about yourself, or put yourself down? This is a good indicator of your self-esteem and self-confidence. Or maybe, you continue to tell yourself you keep meeting the same type of men, or you cannot trust anyone because you were hurt previously. How you talk to yourself right now will determine the type of man you attract to you.
Imagine you are speaking to a magical genie. You hear yourself saying - men let you down, you are fearful of being hurt again. The words you say to yourself, your genie will continue to deliver what you ask for! Its called the law of attraction or your self-fulling prophecy a subject I could talk to you about for hours.
To start your new journey, it's important to become aware of your language, negative and positive, to change your self-awareness and language into what you DO WANT, instead of what you don't want.
To do this takes practice, on a daily basis to create new neuropathways your brain begins to refer to instead of your old way of thinking where you are right now. When you become aware of the way you communicate, think and behave you will more easily transform and change your approach next time.
In your previous relationships, did you communicate your needs clearly, did you use protest behaviour (e.g. become moody, indirectly say you are fine when inside you feel upset, or use tit for tat approach and not speak to each other for hours or days, or did you communicate your deeper emotions and needs clearly)?
Today the best advice I can give you, having walked my talk, is take the time to learn more about yourself NOW and how you tick, think, behave and communicate. If you want to meet someone extraordinary you will instinctively recognise your Mr or Mrs Right when you meet them. This recognition will happen quickly when you’ve taken the time to understand yourself on a much deeper level, spending time loving you, building a relationship with yourself to feel more self-confident, resilient and happier in your own skin and life. Your energy and the frequency you then emit will also change.
There are two scenarios I want you to consider. The first one. How confident do you feel in business based on your personal performance on a scale of zero up to 10? If 10=highest number, what number would you give yourself on this scale? If you are above 8 you are pretty self-assured and are doing a great job. You may be at the top of your game and doing a great job. You know your stuff.
Now scenario two. Now ask yourself. How confident do you feel in yourself at recognising a man, someone new, who can easily communicate, share similar values and interests, also satisfy your deeper needs to be there for you through the ups and downs of life, beyond sexual chemistry? Most people would possibly give a much lower number on the scale of zero up to 10. Would you agree?
If you are learning anything new at work, or you recognise you need to learn a new skill to perform better in your job, to work more efficiently and effectively, you would go on a course to improve your skill set.
As a Life Coach (now specialising as a Relationship Success and Recovery Coach, Relationship and Well-being Expert qualified to accelerate your personal happiness and relationship success, learning life-changing skills today will change your relationship perspective, how you approach a new relationship and you will reset your heart, head and life in a new positive happier direction. You would also be better equipped to attract the man you want to attract to you and begin to build a much stronger relationship together because you have the relationship skills to do so.
Today I would like to invite you to improve your relationship skillset, to discover and accelerate your relationship proficiency, discover what's important to you about the relationship you want to share your life with, how to improve your communication skills in your relationship, how you deal with conflict to bring love back into the flow so much more quickly. When you discover your deeper needs, you will more easily support a new partner's deeper needs. It makes sense doesn't it?
Learning these skills you will become the best version of yourself and the best partner you can be to someone new. You will more easily recognise if a man is aligned with you emotionally, mentally, physically and spiritually very quickly. You will have the skills to understand a man is naturally wired and capable of giving you what you want emotionally to build a more rewarding, loving and connected relationship that can work and last, that is right or you.
The greatest gift you can give yourself this Christmas is the gift to super-accelerate your next steps towards the man you would love to attract to you. How you feel in your heart and mind right now, will determine the type of man you attract to you. If you want to avoid meeting the same men, to recognise someone extraordinary (they need to be sharing your life and heart) I would like to introduce to you a FREE 14 Day Relationship Coaching Taster (that will only take you 90 minutes to complete) or 10 minutes a day over 9 days. If you then wish to continue through the program I am only charging £97 to accelerate your next steps with life-transforming coaching exercises to set you on a new pathway in 2019.
I am delighted to introduce you an online experience you can discover right now if it is right for you. Are you ready to invest a few hours of your time to recognise and build a more connected relationship, to get clear about what's important to you, to discover why you could be sabotaging yourself without realising it and whether someone is capable of satisfying your deeper needs?
To accelerate your next steps to find the love and partner you truly deserve in 2019, let me help you this Christmas time.