Christmas and Valentines are key dates in your calendar year when you’re reminded about having a special someone in your life. It’s a time you undoubtedly become aware of what’s missing in your life if your single or divorced, when you see everyone around you sharing it with a special someone.
Imagine, if you could find someone new, you are not only attracted to, aligned with, you can effectively communicate with, in a more loving and happier relationship that works beyond 2 years: what value would you put on finding this gift?
Taking only 2 days out of your busy lifestyle, you could receive all the education, insight, proven coaching strategies and techniques (and knowledge that’s tried and tested over 20 years to discover what does work). That’s if you’ve reached an age in your life, you are prepared to achieve different results, with a potential new partner. Or you may be thinking right now, you don’t know how to even get to first base and attract the right man into your life. This programme will certainly help you too.
I am running through this with you now, to give you this most valuable nugget of information first so I don’t waste your time. If this article has already touched or resonated with you, then read on.
How can we help our future generations to build the right relationship
Love is now more disposable as the Y generation shop for it on Tinder, vs the older Baby Boomers in their 40’s/50’s who continue to remain stuck between old and new traditions. As we age and mature, finding true love becomes more competitive with a lower ratio of available men (the hunters) vs women (waiting to be hunted). An older Mr Extraordinary now has any number of older or younger women to choose from.
For you to stand you to the right man, he needs to recognise you’re a high value woman inside and out. It’s now even more important for entrepreneurial career women (waiting to be hunted) to get it right if you’re looking for extraordinary instead of second best, instead of another failed relationship.
Or, if life is whizzing by and you’re now in your 50’s plus and you are still waiting to found the right man you are aligned and compatible with. To make a relationship work you need to take a different approach if what you are doing right now it’s working.
I was the typical career woman waiting for Mr Right to turn up
Already focused on my career. At 28 I ended my 11-year first-love relationship, simply because we didn’t understand each other’s deeper needs. I was also big time naïve and believed another man would make me happier. It’s the mindset we especially follow in our 20s. But life experience has since taught me otherwise. I in fact became a symptom of society, viewing love as more disposable when I expected to meet Mr Right quite quickly and live happy ever. How wrong I was! My life certainly didn’t turn out how I expected it to. Possibly your life hasn’t turned out the way you expected it to either?
The next 13 years of my adult life 28-41, I considered myself an independent single career woman, trying to survive paying the bills and mortgage, surviving emotionally and mentally living alone without the support of the right partner. I continued dating, having short-term relationships that didn’t last beyond 2 years. Life became even more stressful doing everything alone because the 3 key reasons why career women are not finding Mr Right, below, didn’t even cross my mind.
If you find yourself in your 30’s, 40’s, 50’s and over, it can become harder with broken relationships getting in the way of finding your next special relationship if you are ready to settle down. More obstacles are likely to hold you back e.g. the way you think about men, about relationships, about yourself. Mr Right could be standing right in front of you, but the way you think could be stopping you.
As a qualified Relationship Transformation Coach, my vision is to become the voice that will transform the RELATIONSHIP SURVIVAL REVOLUTION to help thousands or millions of single or divorced career women (or men) in their 30’s, 40’s, 50’s plus. I want to make a difference towards changing societies approach.
If I can help and educate women how they APPROACH FINDING A NEW RELATIONSHIP AND BUILDING ONE THAT WORKS and LASTS, I have done my job. I work with Executive clients either 1-2-1 who are time poor who want a quick solution or with groups of women. Sharing my knowledge and experience will give an accelerated learning experience, if more women (even men) want to AVOID MAKING THE SAME MISTAKES (they are likely to be unaware of).
The 3 key reasons why career women are not finding Mr Right (rightly or wrongly).
As a corporate career woman, I followed societies lead, leaving love to chance because the fairy tale tells us one day we will meet our Prince Charming and will live happy ever after. Society believes we will meet our special someone, but the chances of finding happy ever is faster declining.
Your next step……
Today, my personal journey has become my passion - to help women (or men who also want to avoid making the same mistakes), and sharing 20 years of my dating experience and relationship education. Now condensed into a 2 Day Masterclass Programme. If I can engage more women with my motivational and engaging talks, I dream of changing more lives. With my qualifications and experience of 5 different therapy interventions of the Mind-Body-Energy connection, my health and well-being experience also supports clients through their journey. What makes me unique, I truly understand how to transform lives much faster than clients can achieve alone.
Why not come along and register to attend a FREE Webinars or a Coaching Taster Events in January/February 2017 to experience some coaching exercises and how the 2 Day programme can help you. My promise is to transform your approach to FIND, BUILD and NURTURE the most rewarding relationship in your life into the future you dream of finding right now.
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My Story
I thought I would have my own family, be happily married by my mid 30’s, which in fact turned into a decade of disappointment in love, dating the wrong guys, and relationships that didn’t last beyond 2 years. During this 10-year period, when I was 33, I decided enough was enough and I took control of my own destiny and future.
One significant relationship that broke me was the catalyst for me to transform my own life. Over 6 years I immersed myself in studying, learning, re-educating myself to BECOME THE BEST PARTNER I COULD BECOME! I walked my talk, applied what I learned in my life and noticed different results with men. I was determined Mr Right would not want to let me go when I found him!
Walking onto a beautiful golden beach in the Bahamas, on February 14th 2014 my life changed in an unbelievable way. It was Valentines Day and my dream had finally came true when I married for the first time in my life. I was 47. It was the most magical day of my life because I had worked so hard to become the best partner I could become for Dave, who is my Mr Extraordinary and has changed my life in an unimaginable way. I am the original career woman Baby Boomer (without my own children) now married to a divorcee with his own family I am very blessed to share and be part of already over 8 ½ years. My life has significantly changed because I took control to FIND, RECOGNISE, BUILD AND NURTURE a more loving and happier relationship I wanted.
Something needs to change if relationships are going to survive. Is Christmas or Valentines your reminder to do something different if you don’t want to keep making the same mistakes?
*The Daily Mail 6th Dec 2016 reported from the Office of National Statistics that Marriage and Divorce as it is lowest since 1970’s. Relationships are no longer surviving now we are living together longer and weaker relationships continue to end.
When it comes to relationships there are two non-negotiable factors for a intimate and successful partnership to work. The first is communication, the second is trust.
Without trust there is very little chance that your relationship will survive or work the way you want it to. Trust is the foundation to build any relationships because quite simply, love is built on trust. As human beings we are hard wired to love people that we place our trust in which takes time to nurture and build.
Vulnerable feelings and emotions will inevitably come up when you meet someone new and fall in love. Working at your relationships also take a lot of commitment, and trust is the basis of any happy and lasting relationship if you are looking to attract Mr Right you would love to settle down and build a future with.
So just how do you gain trust? You may have heard the old adage “trust takes a lifetime to build and a moment to break”. As with most things in life, trust needs to be earned, it’s not automatically given.
Here are 7 Top Tips on how you can build trust in a relationship.
1.Be willing to trust.
Your heart needs to be open to trust before you decide to date a guy if you’re looking for a meaningful or lasting relationship. You have to be willing and open to trust in the first place. Trust is reciprocal, so you can only begin by speaking authentically your feelings inside in a secure and loving way. Or possibly, you may need to work on a limiting belief, to change your mindset if ‘I don’t trust men’ is a belief you are still carrying deep inside you. Such a belief will only continue to sabotage any new relationship unless you discover how to create a more positive and empowering thought instead.
2.Decide what trust means to YOU.
Trust means different things to different people. So get a notepad and just jot down what trust means to you. What comes in to your mind when you think about trust? How would you show that you trust your partner? If you’re clear about what it means to you, you’ll be more successful as you start to build trust.
3.Find out what trust means to a man your dating.
Before you fall in love with someone new, it’s important to ask any man what he thinks about trust and what it means to him. Take some time to discuss the subject, to make sure that you’re on the same page. It's a great starting point and foundation before you enter any new or longer-term relationship.
4.Be trustworthy yourself.
Don’t place the onus on trust with your date or partner. You too have to be trust worthy. Make sure you do what you say you will do, follow through on commitments, be dependable and keep your promises to help your partner feel more secure and trusting in you. So ask yourself the question “Would you trust you?”
5.Keep communicating.
Trust and communication go hand in hand whatever stage your relationship is at. Tell each other how you feel, not what you partner wants to hear, because the moment your thoughts and feelings are withheld, trust becomes harder to sustain if you don’t express yourself or communicate clearly. Loving feelings can easily breakdown, so remember it’s important to discuss your emotions in a secure and loving way if something is bothering you.
6.Know that trust can be chipped away at.
Trust isn’t always just broken by a series of lies or an affair. Sometimes trust issues develop over time. So it’s essential that you recognise the patterns and ensure that you address and work on those little niggles as they happen so you don’t end up with one big argument. When you say what you truthfully feel inside, love will more easily come back into flow once again when you clear any unspoken words you're holding onto. So don't let emotions build up into resentment, this is a difficult breaking point, which can certainly stop any intimacy or sexual chemistry unless you deal with your emotions in the correct way.
7.Building trust in a relationship is crucial for its success.
Learn to see the joy in trust and how you can build and support a new partner to feel more secure. Nurture trust in your own life first, continue to be open and honest, and a more rewarding, happier and loving relationship will grow into what you believe about trust!
If you're struggling with one particular area on your love journey, or want to discover how to bring love back into flow, get in touch on Facebook @lovecoachingyou or come along to a Taster Event or Workshop near you. You'll discover how to feel more self-confident, and the F.I.N.D. Love Accerelator 4 Step Formula will help you - recognise Mr Right, ATTRACT, FIND, NURTURE and BUILD a more lasting, loving and happier relationship that works following simple strategies and techniques.
If you're Really Not Ready for a relationship yet, the FIND Love Accelerator 4 Step Formula will also help to educate, empower and transform where you are now, to where you want to be, before you start dating again. If you're looking for a 10/10 relationship, you need to start with YOU first.
To discover what you need to work on first, here's some more valuable insight. My FREE GIFT to help you now. The 5 Step Inner Beauty Makeover.
There are many reasons why women remain single and one is the scarcity of men when we are older. As we reach our mid 30's and head towards our 40’s, 50’s and older, it get's harder to meet the right available man especially if you're still looking for your Mr Right.
With a lower ratio and fewer available single men on the market, more women are competing for the right male attention. So it’s important to consider, how you stand out from other women.
Looks
You never know where you could meet Mr Right. To attract the right guy, it's important to take care of your hair, makeup, your body, the style you want to project, especially if you want a man to take care of his appearance.
Our brain is hard wired to reproduce, so it's only human to want to feel desired by men no matter what age you are. As a woman you can be attracted to many features in a man to be drawn to him, so it's not always about looks. Men are more visual, so your appearance will certainly catch his attention for any spark of chemistry to ignite.
Inner Beauty
When a man notices you, it's important your inner beauty really makes you shine. How you feel about yourself, how you respond to him, your personality and attitude, will speak volumes to him. He will quickly decide if he wants to invest his time with you. Remember, your looks and chemistry alone will not maintain your relationship. Any sexual chemistry and excitement can often be short lived, so your inner beauty needs to shine for a man to recognise you are right for him.
If you're a confident professional woman I am sure you would love to meet a confident man who is happy and charming, or he has the qualities you are looking for. Remember, like attracts like, so become the person you want to meet, e.g. happy and confident. Right now, if you're not feeling self-confident with men, possibly have lower self-esteem, it's unlikely you will meet a more confident type of guy.
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Communication
To ATTRACT, NURTURE and BUILD a healthy and more successful relationship, communication is the key. Without an awareness of the way you communicate with a new guy, will either glue, or repel your relationship. If you really want to avoid repeating the same mistakes, take some time out to understand how you think and what you are saying to men. Are you effective and loving, or dis-empowering when you communicate?
Now here's the interesting part. If you were to give yourself a mark out of 10 (0= not achieved, 10 = you’ve achieved 10 out of 10), what number would you give yourself when answering these 3 questions.
If you are closer to a 10 that's a great place to be. If you would love to attract a similar guy to you, and you've marked yourself 5 or 6, possibly lower, then you may want to think about reaching out for expert support if you really want to become a better version of you. Now answer these questions:
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