How you could sabotage your dating chances

If you are a high-achieving woman, or supermum and want to get your dating decision right, you will need to value your self-development if what you have been doing so far on your dating or relationship journey hasn't been working out for you.

Your brain will always protect you from seemingly dangerous situations.  Especially, if you think deep down negatively about men, relationships, or yourself. Your subconscious brain is programmed to divert your attention when your fight or flight response is activated to keep you away from another stressful situation your brain regards as dangerous e.g. even a dating situation. Or you may have been invited to a lovely social event that you know eligible men are attending, but you decide not to go because you are too busy, but deep down you prefer to avoid going to protect yourself (e.g. for the fear of being hurt again). This subconscious behaviour will continue to sabotage your chances. You also need to know your Step 1 postcode and address to recognise the right Mr Right, Step 2 is to understand how to recognise a man communicates with you that glue that will build a stronger relationship.

Unless you become aware of the way you think, and what you believe to be true, and the way you communicate. your magic genie will continue to deliver your self-fulfilling prophecy, the man you believe deep down will turn up e.g. a guy who will let you down, want you for sex, is not committed.

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- Your love quote today -

Love is an untamed force. When we try to control it, it destroys us. When we try to imprison it, it enslaves us. When we try to understand it, it leaves us feeling lost and confused. Paulo Coelho.

To unravel your confusion, and fill your heart and life with your missing ingredient, let me help you get it right if you are ready to Recognise, Attract and Build your most loving high-quality loving relationship that will thrive and survive!

With loving wishes

Karen Marshall x

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Over the next few blogs, I will be sharing a few invaluable relationship insights and secrets every woman needs to know to attract your Mr Right (a high-quality man):

Whether you are ready or NOT for a relationship, or you are actively dating, deep down you may have a fear of being hurt again if you have been let down by men too many times. If you no longer want to repeat the same relationship mistakes, you could be making the same mistakes without realising.

If you are a high-achieving woman who values your self-development, you are determined and ready to discover a new proven, tried, and tested approach that works, I am the right expert to take you from where you are now to where you want to be in weeks, noticing different results with men.

I hear so many women say to me, they are too busy for a relationship because it's an easy distraction to avoid our feelings inside. Instead, we focus on work, family, and other priorities and default to a self-protection mode keeping busy.

We tell others consciously (e.g, that we are happy being single) but subconsciously (our deeper fears will keep us stuck for many reasons). The fears you continue to hold deep down will stay with you, as you start dating, or begin a new relationship. Don't let your fears be the cause of another relationship ending, or leaving you heartbroken. As an expert, this is one of the key reasons we sabotage our chances in love you will recognise when I show you.

Or take note. your subconscious, I call your genie, will continue to bring you what you wish for if you believe deep down e.g. a man will hurt you or let you down. Then guess who will keep turning up?!

If you are actively dating - Would you take your driving test without doing the theory first? I know this may seem hard because dating is fun and exciting but it is also heartbreaking when you get it wrong. If you now want different results in love, do the work while you are single and put dating on pause for a few weeks as you learn your theory.  

Step 1 - Top Tip

How will you know Mr Right is right for you and is capable of building a thriving relationship with you?

It is critical to get your dating decision right. Without any understanding of your postcode and address, you will keep driving down the wrong roads, get lost, attract similar men you want to avoid, or your relationships will not work out. To decide what is important to you about the man you want to date and share your life with, if you are ready to settle down, get clear about your correct address and postcode. 

To accelerate your dating and relationship happiness, discover your postcode and address. You will also need to understand in Step 2, how to recognise if a man can communicate to satisfy your deeper emotional needs.

Love quote today - Love is friendship that has caught fire. It is quiet understanding, mutual confidence, sharing and forgiving. It is loyalty, through good and bad times. It settles for less than perfection and makes allowances for human weaknesses. Ann Landers.

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With loving wishes

Karen Marshall x

LoveCoachingYou.com

Christmas and Valentines are key dates in your calendar year when you’re reminded about having a special someone in your life.  It’s a time you undoubtedly become aware of what’s missing in your life if your single or divorced, when you see everyone around you sharing it with a special someone.

Imagine, if you could find someone new, you are not only attracted to, aligned with, you can effectively communicate with, in a more loving and happier relationship that works beyond 2 years: what value would you put on finding this gift?

Taking only 2 days out of your busy lifestyle, you could receive all the education, insight, proven coaching strategies and techniques (and knowledge that’s tried and tested over 20 years to discover what does work). That’s if you’ve reached an age in your life, you are prepared to achieve different results, with a potential new partner. Or you may be thinking right now, you don’t know how to even get to first base and attract the right man into your life.  This programme will certainly help you too.

I am running through this with you now, to give you this most valuable nugget of information first so I don’t waste your time. If this article has already touched or resonated with you, then read on.

How can we help our future generations to build the right relationship

Love is now more disposable as the Y generation shop for it on Tinder, vs the older Baby Boomers in their 40’s/50’s who continue to remain stuck between old and new traditions. As we age and mature, finding true love becomes more competitive with a lower ratio of available men (the hunters) vs women (waiting to be hunted).  An older Mr Extraordinary now has any number of older or younger women to choose from.

For you to stand you to the right man, he needs to recognise you’re a high value woman inside and out.  It’s now even more important for entrepreneurial career women (waiting to be hunted) to get it right if you’re looking for extraordinary instead of second best, instead of another failed relationship.

Or, if life is whizzing by and you’re now in your 50’s plus and you are still waiting to found the right man you are aligned and compatible with. To make a relationship work you need to take a different approach if what you are doing right now it’s working.

I was the typical career woman waiting for Mr Right to turn up

Already focused on my career. At 28 I ended my 11-year first-love relationship, simply because we didn’t understand each other’s deeper needs.  I was also big time naïve and believed another man would make me happier. It’s the mindset we especially follow in our 20s. But life experience has since taught me otherwise.  I in fact became a symptom of society, viewing love as more disposable when I expected to meet Mr Right quite quickly and live happy ever.  How wrong I was! My life certainly didn’t turn out how I expected it to.  Possibly your life hasn’t turned out the way you expected it to either?

The next 13 years of my adult life 28-41, I considered myself an independent single career woman, trying to survive paying the bills and mortgage, surviving emotionally and mentally living alone without the support of the right partner.  I continued dating, having short-term relationships that didn’t last beyond 2 years.  Life became even more stressful doing everything alone because the 3 key reasons why career women are not finding Mr Right, below, didn’t even cross my mind.

If you find yourself in your 30’s, 40’s, 50’s and over, it can become harder with broken relationships getting in the way of finding your next special relationship if you are ready to settle down.  More obstacles are likely to hold you back e.g. the way you think about men, about relationships, about yourself.  Mr Right could be standing right in front of you, but the way you think could be stopping you.

As a qualified Relationship Transformation Coach, my vision is to become the voice that will transform the RELATIONSHIP SURVIVAL REVOLUTION to help thousands or millions of single or divorced career women (or men) in their 30’s, 40’s, 50’s plus. I want to make a difference towards changing societies approach.

If I can help and educate women how they APPROACH FINDING A NEW RELATIONSHIP AND BUILDING ONE THAT WORKS and LASTS, I have done my job.  I work with Executive clients either 1-2-1 who are time poor who want a quick solution or with groups of women. Sharing my knowledge and experience will give an accelerated learning experience, if more women (even men) want to AVOID MAKING THE SAME MISTAKES (they are likely to be unaware of).

The 3 key reasons why career women are not finding Mr Right (rightly or wrongly). 

1. Today’s modern woman makes their career a priority to simply survive! With social media and society consistently reinforcing the relationship breakdown message*personal security and survival dictates how women are taking control of their own destiny to have a reasonable standard of living without a man. More single super mums have no choice, without the support of an ex-relationship who may have walked away. So, a career is a must have for single women.

2. Women of course want a career and fulfilment, it’s a human need. This focus unfortunately takes our mind off our goal to find a successful relationship that does work, or how to become a better partner in a more lasting relationship. Society is so fixated on our special someone arriving eventually, we put the least effort possible into FINDING AND BUILDING the most significant relationship in our life. We in fact spend more time and focus maintaining our cars.

3. The family panic button switches on as we approach our 30’s or 40’s. With no Mr Right to be seen, it’s a time women (or men) easily make wrong relationship choices because having children becomes a biological and social priority. We don’t even think about how to become a better partner, or parent before children arrive. Children then become the bi-product of societies self-fulfilled prophecy of failed relationships. Mixed families are now normal, as we blend a new generation of children from broken or divorced families together.  The next generation will certainly find it an even harder obstacle course to navigate finding love, if we continue making the same mistakes and don’t change our approach.

As a corporate career woman, I followed societies lead, leaving love to chance because the fairy tale tells us one day we will meet our Prince Charming and will live happy ever after. Society believes we will meet our special someone, but the chances of finding happy ever is faster declining.

Your next step……

Today, my personal journey has become my passion - to help women (or men who also want to avoid making the same mistakes), and sharing 20 years of my dating experience and relationship education. Now condensed into a 2 Day Masterclass Programme.   If I can engage more women with my motivational and engaging talks, I dream of changing more lives.  With my qualifications and experience of 5 different therapy interventions of the Mind-Body-Energy connection, my health and well-being experience also supports clients through their journey. What makes me unique, I truly understand how to transform lives much faster than clients can achieve alone.

Why not come along and register to attend a FREE Webinars or a Coaching Taster Events in January/February 2017 to experience some coaching exercises and how the 2 Day programme can help you.   My promise is to transform your approach to FIND, BUILD and NURTURE the most rewarding relationship in your life into the future you dream of finding right now. 

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My Story

I thought I would have my own family, be happily married by my mid 30’s, which in fact turned into a decade of disappointment in love, dating the wrong guys, and relationships that didn’t last beyond 2 years.  During this 10-year period, when I was 33, I decided enough was enough and I took control of my own destiny and future.

One significant relationship that broke me was the catalyst for me to transform my own life. Over 6 years I immersed myself in studying, learning, re-educating myself to BECOME THE BEST PARTNER I COULD BECOME!  I walked my talk, applied what I learned in my life and noticed different results with men.  I was determined Mr Right would not want to let me go when I found him!

Walking onto a beautiful golden beach in the Bahamas, on February 14^th 2014 my life changed in an unbelievable way. It was Valentines Day and  my dream had finally came true when I married for the first time in my life. I was 47. It was the most magical day of my life because I had worked so hard to become the best partner I could become for Dave, who is my Mr Extraordinary and has changed my life in an unimaginable way.  I am the original career woman Baby Boomer (without my own children) now married to a divorcee with his own family I am very blessed to share and be part of already over 8 ½ years. My life has significantly changed because I took control to FIND, RECOGNISE, BUILD AND NURTURE a more loving and happier relationship I wanted.

Something needs to change if relationships are going to survive.  Is Christmas or Valentines your reminder to do something different if you don’t want to keep making the same mistakes?

*The Daily Mail 6^th Dec 2016 reported from the Office of National Statistics that Marriage and Divorce as it is lowest since 1970’s. Relationships are no longer surviving now we are living together longer and weaker relationships continue to end.

Finding love isn’t always easy if you are a woman in your late 30’s, 40’s or 50’s+ and you find yourself single or divorced a while and you want to avoid more heartache. But get this. You still have an amazing gift – your FREEDOM TO CHOOSE.

If you have never married before, would love to settle down, or you have been divorced a while with children and co-parenting with an ex. partner and you are considering dating.  You may find it hard living alone, coping through the ups and downs of life, supporting yourself financially, emotionally and mentally.  The right life skills would give you the emotional scaffolding to feel stronger inside and also help you to better support your children as you lead them by a new healthy communication example.

There are many times you may feel vulnerable living as a single woman or parent. These such times you would love to be loved and cherished.  It is also often too easy to reach out to someone new if you are feeling needy of being loved. Be warned, you are also likely to get hurt again.

Today I want to motivate you with a new choice to find someone extraordinary if you are prepared to help yourself and do what it takes to change your life into a much happier, more loving and fulfilling future you truly deserve.

There are a lot of amazing men out there, but first you need to take responsibility for your 50% of the relationship you want in your life, particularly if you have been heartbroken too many times.  What do I mean?  It is far to easy to pass blame to a partner if he didn't meet your needs.  It is also your responsibility to consider what part did you play in your previous relationships break down for it to end.   Did you take responsibility for your emotions instead of telling a partner they upset you?

There are many reasons relationships end, you may have been left the victim, but also you may be sabotaging your relationship(s) without realising it.  Your subconscious could be protecting you from being hurt again.  e.g. you may push someone away from you because they are getting too close emotionally for the fear of being hurt again.

When you begin to listen much more loudly to the words you use, how you communicate and talk to yourself inside your head, what you say and how you speak to your colleagues at work, your friends and family.  Do you talk positively about yourself, or put yourself down?  This is a good indicator of your self-esteem and self-confidence.  Or maybe, you continue to tell yourself you keep meeting the same type of men, or you cannot trust anyone because you were hurt previously.  How you talk to yourself right now will determine the type of man you attract to you.

Imagine you are speaking to a magical genie.  You hear yourself saying - men let you down, you are fearful of being hurt again.   The words you say to yourself, your genie will continue to deliver what you ask for!  Its called the law of attraction or your self-fulling prophecy a subject I could talk to you about for hours.

To start your new journey, it's important to become aware of your language, negative and positive, to change your self-awareness and language into what you DO WANT, instead of what you don't want.

To do this takes practice, on a daily basis to create new neuropathways your brain begins to refer to instead of your old way of thinking where you are right now.  When you become aware of the way you communicate, think and behave you will more easily transform and change your approach next time.

In your previous relationships, did you communicate your needs clearly, did you use protest behaviour (e.g. become moody, indirectly say you are fine when inside you feel upset, or use tit for tat approach and not speak to each other for hours or days, or did you communicate your deeper emotions and needs clearly)?

Today the best advice I can give you, having walked my talk, is take the time to learn more about yourself NOW and how you tick, think, behave and communicate.  If you want to meet someone extraordinary you will instinctively recognise your Mr or Mrs Right when you meet them.  This recognition will happen quickly when you’ve taken the time to understand yourself on a much deeper level, spending time loving you, building a relationship with yourself to feel more self-confident, resilient and happier in your own skin and life.  Your energy and the frequency you then emit will also change.

There are two scenarios I want you to consider.  The first one.  How confident do you feel in business based on your personal performance on a scale of zero up to 10?  If 10=highest number, what number would you give yourself on this scale?  If you are above 8 you are pretty self-assured and are doing a great job.  You may be at the top of your game and doing a great job. You know your stuff.

Now scenario two.  Now ask yourself.  How confident do you feel in yourself at recognising a man, someone new, who can easily communicate, share similar values and interests, also satisfy your deeper needs to be there for you through the ups and downs of life, beyond sexual chemistry?  Most people would possibly give a much lower number on the scale of zero up to 10.  Would you agree?

If you are learning anything new at work, or you recognise you need to learn a new skill to perform better in your job, to work more efficiently and effectively, you would go on a course to improve your skill set.

As a Life Coach (now specialising as a Relationship Success and Recovery Coach, Relationship and Well-being Expert qualified to accelerate your personal happiness and relationship success, learning life-changing skills today will change your relationship perspective, how you approach a new relationship and you will reset your heart, head and life in a new positive happier direction. You would also be better equipped to attract the man you want to attract to you and begin to build a much stronger relationship together because you have the relationship skills to do so.

Today I would like to invite you to improve your relationship skillset, to discover and accelerate your relationship proficiency, discover what's important to you about the relationship you want to share your life with, how to improve your communication skills in your relationship, how you deal with conflict to bring love back into the flow so much more quickly.  When you discover your deeper needs, you will more easily support a new partner's deeper needs.  It makes sense doesn't it?

Learning these skills you will become the best version of yourself and the best partner you can be to someone new.  You will more easily recognise if a man is aligned with you emotionally, mentally, physically and spiritually very quickly.  You will have the skills to understand a man is naturally wired and capable of giving you what you want emotionally to build a more rewarding, loving and connected relationship that can work and last, that is right or you.

The greatest gift you can give yourself this Christmas is the gift to super-accelerate your next steps towards the man you would love to attract to you.  How you feel in your heart and mind right now, will determine the type of man you attract to you.  If you want to avoid meeting the same men, to recognise someone extraordinary (they need to be sharing your life and heart) I would like to introduce to you a FREE 14 Day Relationship Coaching Taster (that will only take you 90 minutes to complete) or 10 minutes a day over 9 days.  If you then wish to continue through the program I am only charging £97 to accelerate your next steps with life-transforming coaching exercises to set you on a new pathway in 2019.

I am delighted to introduce you an online experience you can discover right now if it is right for you. Are you ready to invest a few hours of your time to recognise and build a more connected relationship, to get clear about what's important to you, to discover why you could be sabotaging yourself without realising it and whether someone is capable of satisfying your deeper needs?

To accelerate your next steps to find the love and partner you truly deserve in 2019, let me help you this Christmas time.