If the average age of divorce for men is 45 and it's 42 for women in the UK* should we continue to accept the status quo?

Future proof your relationship survival

In society today we only hear about two relationship extremes. A lovely wedding. It will now cost you an average of £27K - for just one day.** Should couples also include in their wedding costs, an empowering 2 days to future proof their relationship survival? What would be more valuable?

You will never consider the thought of divorce when you meet someone new you have amazing chemistry with, or when you first get married because you feel so in love. If you want a thriving relationship that will last, the most important reason why you should invest in your relationship happiness at the early stages of love is to future proof your relationship success. Taking this first easy step will especially help you to deal with conflict to more easily bring love back into flow very quickly. Also, strengthen your relationship foundations from the outset. To understand your Emotional Intelligence number on a scale of zero to 10, keep reading.....

Taking your Relationship MOT

Making the decision to take a relationship EQ MOT will transform your life and your relationship happiness. If you also want to avoid becoming a divorce statistic, if you are fearful deep down of making the same mistakes with someone new, or your current relationship it is time to develop your emotional intelligence (I will help you further down this post)? If you understand the pattern you personally follow when you argue (any previous/current relationship will give you your answer). If you are unable to understand each other's perspective, pass blame, take responsibility for your emotions, I would advise you to take a relationship MOT before you start dating, whether you are in a new relationship, engaged or have been married a number of years. Keeping the magic of love alive needs working on or you will repeat the same behaviour with another person (that could take you years to find because the grass is not always greener the other side of the fence). Once you discover the priceless insight on how to clear an argument, speak your truth and better understand how you tick and communicated, you will begin to positively react, respond and listen differently to a new partner or the relationship you may want to save or rebuild right now.

Consider these questions for a moment. How long would you let yourself bleed before you put a plaster or bandage over your wound? How long would you endure a health condition before you see a doctor? How long would you struggle at work trying to understand a new piece of software without going on a course to speed up your learning process? How much longer do you want to endure relationship or emotional unhappiness?

It will hit you hard

The impact of divorce or a relationship breakdown only becomes real when it happens. Including your legal fees, splitting your assets, home and financials (all relative to your situation). It will possibly cost you 3 or 4 times the average wedding day spend in total (once you have paid your family lawyer (approx £1200 for a straight forward divorce). The financial cost, of course, depends on your personal circumstances and financial situation. Your emotional intelligence will help you to keep afloat because you then have the devasting emotionally and mental anguish of loss, hurt and pain to deal with when you are trying to support your children's wellbeing too (if you have a family). It will hit you harder, especially if your EQ is under-developed. if this is the case your children will suffer too. Your EQ intelligence is your foundation to cope with any life challenge when it hits you hard. So wherever you are on your love pathway, starting something new, consider the skills you need to develop your EQ. If you want or have a family, they will learn by your example if you already have the right EQ toolkit - if you have been divorced, what to save your relationship or start a new one!

Transform your Approach

Possibly you could start a new relationship, save or rebuild your relationship with a new awareness of each other before you hit problems. For the solution of how you do this, I help clients quickly identify, following my unique tailored 4 step toolkit, if separation or divorce is the best way forward. I help clients save their relationship or before they are ready to start dating, I prepare them with the insight and wisdom they need to make the right informed choice critical - to recognise and attract someone extraordinary (I know so and the clients who have met the love of their life will tell you how important this step is too). If you want a fresh, proven, tried and tested approach that is not Relate Counselling or Talking Therapies (will help you chat through past or current issues) , Walking my talk as a Relationship Expert over 20 years I understand the solution and have created a unique new professionally qualified approach that works. The 4 steps I introduce over a personal 1-2-1 discovery session.

If you are ready to MOT your relationship skills you will get radically different results (over just 2 days) when you apply what you learn. It's an investment every human being should consider! Remember coaching will empower you, it is not a therapy and one day I hope my unique 4 steps healthy communication coaching programme will be the preferred go-to alternative to Relate Counselling (if therapy is not right for you).

Strengthening your emotional intelligence is also a precious life tool and skill to reach your true potential in life and love. You will take back control of your emotions more quickly if you are emotionally stuck, exhausted, anxious or depressed. Take greater steps toward in your business ambitions and life achievements. What you learn and how you apply your emotional intelligence, will positively impact every area of your life and the people you communicate with. You have everything to gain!

This is the most important tip for today so remember it. When you learn to become the best version of you, you will also become the best partner you could be to build, save, or start a new a more lasting relationship for you and it to thrive.

If you don't invest in your Emotional intelligence:

You are likely to continue as you are today, nothing will change. You will possibly continue to feel depressed or stressed for longer, overwhelmed, struggle emotionally, feel empty without the loving relationship you truly deserve, unable to cope or be productive as you would like to at work. If life has hit you hard you may feel the victim for longer if you have been heartbroken and your emotions are out of control. If you have been single or divorced a while, you feel lonely and alone, it can feel like you have no purpose (on the treadmill) without the special someone you want to share your life, dreams and future with.

If you do invest in your EQ skills:

• You will take control of your emotions instead of them controlling you.
• You will overcome stress, anxiety or feelings of depression so much more quickly
• You will be better equipped to recognise, attract and build a more loving and rewarding relationship that will thrive.
• It's why your EQ is so much more valuable than your Intellectual Intelligence (IQ).
• What price would you pay for your happiness, health and relationship success?
• Would you now agree your EQ is the most priceless life investment? We can learn knowledge, we need to invest in our EQ daily.

A Little Exercise - What is your Emotional intelligence number?

A coaching question to help you understand your EQ number today .......

On a scale of zero up to 10 (10=the best you could be at communicating), how good are you at dealing with conflict with your husband, wife, boyfriend, girlfriend, fiance (or consider a previous relationship or another family member, work colleague you know)? What number are you?

If you are an 8 or 9 you are well developed. Anything below, imagine if you invested just 2 days of your life, how you will develop your EQ and transform your life?

I would love to inspire you to develop your new EQ toolkit every human being needs to learn.

Your next step.......

To book your Emotional Intelligence Relationship 30 minute Discovery Call today, you can book here online immediately. Simply click this link.

Or start your FREE 90 minute Online Relationship Coaching EQ Programme today!

Can you help me to help the people you care about?

Which well-ness contact in your business do you know I could contact to introduce my New You staff engagement and wellbeing programme to? Please email me karen@lovecoachingyou.com or text 07590 221951. Imagine the personal and profitable impact on your business, staff and personal happiness if every employee had their own Emotional Intelligence Toolkit. Staff would want to come into work, feel more productive if you care about their wellbeing.

With loving wishes and much gratitude.

Karenx

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* according to the ONS (Office of National Statistics)

** Bride Magazine

Are you feeling lost or confused what to do?  Or overwhelmed?

Separation and divorce is the most difficult emotional situation you may be faced with right now.  It is extremely stressful and painful and often associated with feeling bereaved.  It will also very much depend on your personal situation, the circumstances of your separation and how you are coping emotionally and mentally with your challenges.  How you feel mentally, your self-worth and self-confidence will also impact your energy levels physically.  If you are feeling stuck emotionally, a priceless toolkit of wisdom and strategies will give you the right emotional scaffolding to help you regain your strength. Or you want the answers how to pick yourself up and rebuild yourself mentally and emotionally - to get your life back.

Any breakdown is a massive life-changing turning point as you begin to learn to survive as a single woman, mum or business woman.  Men will also go through big adjustments, but will deal with their emotions differently.

If you are finding it hard to cope there is help at hand offering you powerful coping strategies and techniques, the priceless life skills to become more resilient, confident, happier and mentally stronger.  Any broken relationship can take time to heal especially if you are feeling the victim.

How are you coping mentally and emotionally right now? On a scale of zero (lowest number) up to 10 (10 = the highest number), what number would you give yourself on this scale?  If your number is lower than a 7 it is a true indicator you may value some help that would give you the tools to navigate your challenges more effectively.  Firstly, it is time to spend loving you once more, to rebuild how you are feeling inside.

To help you reach the next number up your scale, if this is 7 or below, I have a few options to help you.

Let's have a quick 20-30 FREE chat to discuss your situation and I will expertly guide you with your next steps.  To arrange your no obligation call, click here.

If Your Body Could Talk What Advice Would it Give You?

Your body is undoubtedly absorbing the emotional stress and anxiety you are feeling and will often manifest in the body as anxiety, muscular tension, headaches, high blood pressure, sleepless nights, mood changes, depression and emotional exhaustion.  These are just some of the symptoms your body will show you if you are listening loudly enough especially as 75% of illness is mostly stress-related.  If yo uare taking time off, feeling unwell or poorly I am not surprised.  When you understand how to take control of your thinking and emotions, you will also begin to feel more energised and happier too so I would love to help you!

To help you with your personal challenge

A) Whether you are feeling emotionally stuck and want to rebuild yourself.  Or b) you may be in a situation you want answers to save or rebuild your relationship. Or c) you want informed knowledge to know that separation or divorce is the best option.   I will personally tailor for you a healthy communication coaching approach (that is not therapy or counselling). I will truly empower you to get you back on track! There is nothing like this coaching programme on the market.  More Berkshire lawyers in Newbury, Oxford and Windsor are promoting my services as they recognise just how beneficial my combined professional coaching and holistic expertise is more helpful for clients in your situation.  If you are looking for a warm, friendly, professional expert to help you, I would be happy to speak to you asap.

The Healing Process

It's important to recognise you need time to heal and invest in your personal well-being and deeper needs if you are feeling emotional or finding it difficult to cope.  Or you will feel like you’re running a long marathon without any finish line ahead if you simply bury your feelings as a coping mechanism.  If you do this, your emotions are more likely to manifest physically in your body if they are not acknowledged.  With my help as a Relationship Expert and Wellbeing Expert you will be supported holistically over a period of time.

Imagine when you cut yourself. Any open wound takes time to naturally heal.  It is the same with your heart. You may need time to possibly rebuild your confidence and support to heal the emotional wounds you are carrying inside.  Learning to love and nurture yourself, looking after your health and well-being, giving yourself the right nutrition, taking time to sleep will all help you on your healing journey to re-ignite your zest for life once more. .

Are you ready to rebuild yourself working with the right expert

If you value your self-worth and your self-development, with my help, you will be better equipped to transform your thinking and how you feel with your own helpful toolkit of strategies.  Firstly let's have a chat for you to  find out how we can work together.

Your future happiness

This is an important point for you to consider while you are healing.  If you are already focusing on your children and work, getting you back on track to rebuild yourself, it's important to start resetting your compass towards a new healthier direction, particularly if you have had an abusive or controlling partner.  I will support you now to rediscover a new approach.  May be you are showing an okay face to the world, but inside you want the right support, if therapy or relationship counselling is not right for you.  Or subconsciously you will repeat making the same mistakes again in your future.  Having walked my own healing journey, right now is absolutely the time to start working together.

Dr Wayne Dyer the famous American philosopher said: “When you change the things you see the things you see change”.   So, when you discover the steps to change your perspective, thinking and how you feel, you will see life differently that may be inconcievalbe right now,

Next Steps

Let's have a FREE 20-30 minute Consultation Call.  This intial call will give you an overview of how I work for you to decide if my offer is right for you and your personal situation.

1-2-1 Personalised Discovery Session - working together one morning or afternoon.

We will spend time focusing on you and your needs, what is right for you with an opportunity to experience the healthy communication programme for yourself.  This meeting is face-to-face.  I will tell you about it on our consultation call how this step will be helpful for you.

To fast track and speed up your healing journey

The healthy communication programme, a proven, tried and tested approach with strategies and techniques that work, combines my personal and professional skills that works,

With 20 years of wisdom and insight, you will no longer have to muddle through feeling alone, feeling the pain inside, or the heartache you have endured for so long.

What is important for you to resolve right now?  If you don't get this area of your life handled, how will your situation impact you mentallly, emotionally, physically, financially, spiritually?  Contact Karen for your FREE 30 Minute No Obligation Call to decife if I am the right expert to transform your life and happiness.

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You are likely to be one of two people.  Someone who consistently HIDES from yourself, or you SEEK answers to discover what you can do differently for greater personal happiness or relationship success.

Vulnerability is your gift

As Brits, speaking our truth at work, with family, friends or when we fall in love, sharing our thoughts and emotions can often make us feel vulnerable and exposed.  It’s so much easier to wear a mask and cover up what is really going on inside and HIDE from or avoid our feelings.
To live a more fulfilled life, feel healthier and happier, the secret is SEEK out what your body is really telling you if your stomach is churning, you feel emotional or stressed? It will give you your answers.

Your body will reflect what you are thinking

Your body is your guiding light to tell you it is time to change your thinking.  You have 7 key energy chakras points, best described as traffic lights that will illuminate when it's time to notice them. They are your warning signals to change what is going on inside your head and what you are thinking at that very moment.  Your body is speaking to you.
The month of January, of course, is a great reminder to get fitter, go down the gym and eat healthier.  But what are you doing to get mentally fitter?  It is the key to your life, your wake up alarm call to do something different if an area of your life isn't working right now.

Your outside world is a reflection of what is going on inside

Did you know your brain only hears what you think and say, it doesn’t hear what is right or wrong, positive or negative? So let me invite you to accelerate your new thinking skills.
I bet you would learn a new skill for your career development or business growth. So why not take the day off, to feel emotionally happier, stronger, more resilient, confident. Or discover how to F.I.N.D. and build a more loving and happier relationship on the 22nd and 23rd March 2018 on a 2 Day Masterclass.

Changing your energy frequency

Energetically your body will absorb your hidden emotions on a cellular level, if you continue to live your life on a lower frequency, feeling stressed, anxious, guilty, fearful, with judgement, sadness or anger, the chances are your body is storing the emotions you are hiding from. You can easily take charge of your thinking when you know how, it becomes a new habit, like cleaning your teeth.
As a Self-Transformation and Relationship Coach, Mentor, Energy healer (studying the energy body over 3 years), Health and Well-being Practitioner in several holistic interventions, SEEKing the steps to think new thoughts is the game-changer to the life and relationship you truly deserve.
Here's a short exercise to start you off. When you feel any tension in your body, what situation is also going on around you at that moment?  Notice any tension, discomfort, or the dominant emotion.  If it could speak to you, what would it say? Listen to the answer then change one negative thought into an empowering positive one. Feel what it feel like in your body!
Try saying......I am....and fill in the gap.  e.g. I am powerful, I am strong, I am determined. See how you body feels!
How you approach your body and understanding of yourself will help you understand someone else if you are ready and seeking a more loving and happier relationship that can work and last.
The next 2 day program is coming up this month 22nd-23rd March.  Interested?

F.I.N.D. & Accelerate Your Relationship Success 

22nd and 23rd March 2018

If you want to transform your relationship happiness, are ready to settle down and want to RECOGNISE and ATTRACT someone extraordinary and understand the steps to BUILD a relationship that works, BOOK your seat today and call Karen to arrange

your FREE 15-minute consultation call to check it is right for you!

Or why not explore your very own Free 7 Day Trial Taster to F.I.N.D. and Accelerate your Relationship Success Online Course you can complete in your own time.

Karen Marshall - www.Love Coaching You.com

"The ability to learn is the most important quality a leader can have"

Sheryl Sandberg (COO of Facebook)

If you value empowerment and want to be a more successful businesswoman, wife, mother, sister, colleague, girlfriend or friend, investing time learning about yourself will help you achieve greatness in your life!

Sheryl Sandberg is indeed a winning woman who has conquered it all but has also lived through adversity and heartbreak to bounce back in her life!

Being resilient is one muscle you need to build 

It will support you through any personal challenge in life or help you achieve greater business success.  It’s also a title headline to empower other women Sheryl supports within her Foundation*.

Her inspiring story below, truly resonates with me to continue helping more winning women like you, to live your life more mindfully, powerfully with the understanding to tap into your true potential for life-changing results.

When you learn new skills to feel happier, more confident, how to become resilient, you already have the assets you need when you understand how to tap into the power of your mind, body and energy. It’s the emotional scaffolding you can harness and use when your human spirit is tested.

Life can be hard

Life can be hard sometimes, when you hear sad stories, loss of life on a daily basis, or the time you need strength to push yourself forward with determination, persistence and courage, in the face of doubt or uncertainty. Or feel like giving up or giving in.  Life will throw us curve balls, of redundancy, relationship breakdown, health conditions, losing loved ones when we don’t expect it.  Maybe you are thinking right now, it only happens to other people.

Working as a Self-Transformation Coach I empower clients how to be mindful and resilient. If you wish to be inspired here is my FREE 4 Life-Changing Steps Every Woman Needs to Know, video mini-course including some quick and easy mindfulness coaching exercises to understand where you are right now on a scale of zero to 10 (if you are already practising mindfulness).

Becoming familiar with the way you think, will give you new perspective and awareness to build your resilience muscle. It’s called mindfulness living in the moment, making new conscious positive thoughtful choices for life-changing results. You will think, feel and behave in a new way to approach your personal challenges, business or relationship goals very differently.

What adversity has changed your life?

Adversity happened to me Karen Marshall. I overcome depression, healing a 10-year skin condition without taking medication, working through redundancy at a time my Mum died unexpectedly and a new relationship ended.  Today I have transformed my health, happiness, business approach, relationship success living more mindfully now my resilient muscle is much stronger.  I wouldn’t be the person I am today, or passionate about my business LoveCoachingYou.com or the Winning Woman Academy without living mindfully and becoming more resilient in my own life.  Today I have the tools, education and understanding to be empathetic to accelerate other women’s lives. My goal for next year is now my mission!

My mission

To empower over a 1000 woman (or men if they are willing to look inside) to love themselves, inside and outside, to feel happier, more confident, resilient, to achieve greater personal happiness, business or relationship success everyone deserves by the end of December 2018!

Leadership belongs to those who take it - Sheryl Sandberg

Sheryl Sandberg’s Inspiring Story

With a net worth over US$1B, due to her stock holdings in Facebook and other companies. In 2012 Time Magazine named her among 100 of the most influential people. She Moved to Silicon Valley in 2001 to join Google Inc. from serving under President Bill Clinton. In 2007 Mark Zuckerberg met Sandberg and thought she was a “perfect fit” for the role of COO she started in 2008.

Sheryl is not only a businesswoman role model, has a loving family and successful career. Unfortunately, her equally successful husband Dave Goldberg sadly died unexpectedly of a severe heart attack in 2015.

Even with enormous grief, Sheryl returned to work after 10 days (In Jewish traditions, the mourning period for a spouse lasts for 30 days). After which, she posted publicly on Facebook, an unfiltered account of her grief-stricken month, attracting more than 74,000 comments to date. Strangers all over the world flooded her Facebook page with tales of their own tragedies and heartbreaks.

She then co-wrote Option B, a partly personal memoir and part practical manual how to withstand catastrophe and grow from adversity.  She renamed her Lean In foundation to the Sheryl Sandberg & Dave Goldberg Family Foundation empowering women to achieve their ambitions and help people build resilience to find meaning in the face of adversity.

As a Self-Transformation Coach who has walked my talk, I also help other Winning Women with the tools to build a more mindful and resilient lifestyle. Also a qualified Health and Well-being Therapist in 5 different interventions. Mentor. Speaker, I understand the mind-body-energy connection and would love to help and accelerate your resilience and mindfulness in 2018. 

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The 4 Life-Changing Steps Every Woman Needs to Know

 Both my 1 and 2 Day Group Coaching Masterclass Workshops follow a system I have uniquely designed to accelerate your life with the secrets I discovered over 20 years I have combined with my mind-body-energy qualified experience and personally walking my talk to discover WHAT DOES WORK.  

These include:

1 Day Coaching Introduction Workshops

1 Day The Mind-Body-Energy Connection

2 Day F.I.N.D. Yourself and Get Back on Track 4 Step Formula

2 Day F.I.N.D. and Accelerate your true Potential 4 Step System

2 Day F.I.N.D. and Accelerate your Relationship Success 4 Step Formula (also available online)

3 Day F.I.N.D. Formula and Mind-Body-Energy Connection

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Reference Sources:

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sheryl_Sandberg

https://www.theguardian.com/technology/2017/apr/16/sheryl-sandberg-facebook-everyone-looked-at-me-like-a-ghost

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Christmas and Valentines are key dates in your calendar year when you’re reminded about having a special someone in your life.  It’s a time you undoubtedly become aware of what’s missing in your life if your single or divorced, when you see everyone around you sharing it with a special someone.

Imagine, if you could find someone new, you are not only attracted to, aligned with, you can effectively communicate with, in a more loving and happier relationship that works beyond 2 years: what value would you put on finding this gift?

Taking only 2 days out of your busy lifestyle, you could receive all the education, insight, proven coaching strategies and techniques (and knowledge that’s tried and tested over 20 years to discover what does work). That’s if you’ve reached an age in your life, you are prepared to achieve different results, with a potential new partner. Or you may be thinking right now, you don’t know how to even get to first base and attract the right man into your life.  This programme will certainly help you too.

I am running through this with you now, to give you this most valuable nugget of information first so I don’t waste your time. If this article has already touched or resonated with you, then read on.

How can we help our future generations to build the right relationship

Love is now more disposable as the Y generation shop for it on Tinder, vs the older Baby Boomers in their 40’s/50’s who continue to remain stuck between old and new traditions. As we age and mature, finding true love becomes more competitive with a lower ratio of available men (the hunters) vs women (waiting to be hunted).  An older Mr Extraordinary now has any number of older or younger women to choose from.

For you to stand you to the right man, he needs to recognise you’re a high value woman inside and out.  It’s now even more important for entrepreneurial career women (waiting to be hunted) to get it right if you’re looking for extraordinary instead of second best, instead of another failed relationship.

Or, if life is whizzing by and you’re now in your 50’s plus and you are still waiting to found the right man you are aligned and compatible with. To make a relationship work you need to take a different approach if what you are doing right now it’s working.

I was the typical career woman waiting for Mr Right to turn up

Already focused on my career. At 28 I ended my 11-year first-love relationship, simply because we didn’t understand each other’s deeper needs.  I was also big time naïve and believed another man would make me happier. It’s the mindset we especially follow in our 20s. But life experience has since taught me otherwise.  I in fact became a symptom of society, viewing love as more disposable when I expected to meet Mr Right quite quickly and live happy ever.  How wrong I was! My life certainly didn’t turn out how I expected it to.  Possibly your life hasn’t turned out the way you expected it to either?

The next 13 years of my adult life 28-41, I considered myself an independent single career woman, trying to survive paying the bills and mortgage, surviving emotionally and mentally living alone without the support of the right partner.  I continued dating, having short-term relationships that didn’t last beyond 2 years.  Life became even more stressful doing everything alone because the 3 key reasons why career women are not finding Mr Right, below, didn’t even cross my mind.

If you find yourself in your 30’s, 40’s, 50’s and over, it can become harder with broken relationships getting in the way of finding your next special relationship if you are ready to settle down.  More obstacles are likely to hold you back e.g. the way you think about men, about relationships, about yourself.  Mr Right could be standing right in front of you, but the way you think could be stopping you.

As a qualified Relationship Transformation Coach, my vision is to become the voice that will transform the RELATIONSHIP SURVIVAL REVOLUTION to help thousands or millions of single or divorced career women (or men) in their 30’s, 40’s, 50’s plus. I want to make a difference towards changing societies approach.

If I can help and educate women how they APPROACH FINDING A NEW RELATIONSHIP AND BUILDING ONE THAT WORKS and LASTS, I have done my job.  I work with Executive clients either 1-2-1 who are time poor who want a quick solution or with groups of women. Sharing my knowledge and experience will give an accelerated learning experience, if more women (even men) want to AVOID MAKING THE SAME MISTAKES (they are likely to be unaware of).

The 3 key reasons why career women are not finding Mr Right (rightly or wrongly). 

1. Today’s modern woman makes their career a priority to simply survive! With social media and society consistently reinforcing the relationship breakdown message*personal security and survival dictates how women are taking control of their own destiny to have a reasonable standard of living without a man. More single super mums have no choice, without the support of an ex-relationship who may have walked away. So, a career is a must have for single women.

2. Women of course want a career and fulfilment, it’s a human need. This focus unfortunately takes our mind off our goal to find a successful relationship that does work, or how to become a better partner in a more lasting relationship. Society is so fixated on our special someone arriving eventually, we put the least effort possible into FINDING AND BUILDING the most significant relationship in our life. We in fact spend more time and focus maintaining our cars.

3. The family panic button switches on as we approach our 30’s or 40’s. With no Mr Right to be seen, it’s a time women (or men) easily make wrong relationship choices because having children becomes a biological and social priority. We don’t even think about how to become a better partner, or parent before children arrive. Children then become the bi-product of societies self-fulfilled prophecy of failed relationships. Mixed families are now normal, as we blend a new generation of children from broken or divorced families together.  The next generation will certainly find it an even harder obstacle course to navigate finding love, if we continue making the same mistakes and don’t change our approach.

As a corporate career woman, I followed societies lead, leaving love to chance because the fairy tale tells us one day we will meet our Prince Charming and will live happy ever after. Society believes we will meet our special someone, but the chances of finding happy ever is faster declining.

Your next step……

Today, my personal journey has become my passion - to help women (or men who also want to avoid making the same mistakes), and sharing 20 years of my dating experience and relationship education. Now condensed into a 2 Day Masterclass Programme.   If I can engage more women with my motivational and engaging talks, I dream of changing more lives.  With my qualifications and experience of 5 different therapy interventions of the Mind-Body-Energy connection, my health and well-being experience also supports clients through their journey. What makes me unique, I truly understand how to transform lives much faster than clients can achieve alone.

Why not come along and register to attend a FREE Webinars or a Coaching Taster Events in January/February 2017 to experience some coaching exercises and how the 2 Day programme can help you.   My promise is to transform your approach to FIND, BUILD and NURTURE the most rewarding relationship in your life into the future you dream of finding right now. 

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My Story

I thought I would have my own family, be happily married by my mid 30’s, which in fact turned into a decade of disappointment in love, dating the wrong guys, and relationships that didn’t last beyond 2 years.  During this 10-year period, when I was 33, I decided enough was enough and I took control of my own destiny and future.

One significant relationship that broke me was the catalyst for me to transform my own life. Over 6 years I immersed myself in studying, learning, re-educating myself to BECOME THE BEST PARTNER I COULD BECOME!  I walked my talk, applied what I learned in my life and noticed different results with men.  I was determined Mr Right would not want to let me go when I found him!

Walking onto a beautiful golden beach in the Bahamas, on February 14^th 2014 my life changed in an unbelievable way. It was Valentines Day and  my dream had finally came true when I married for the first time in my life. I was 47. It was the most magical day of my life because I had worked so hard to become the best partner I could become for Dave, who is my Mr Extraordinary and has changed my life in an unimaginable way.  I am the original career woman Baby Boomer (without my own children) now married to a divorcee with his own family I am very blessed to share and be part of already over 8 ½ years. My life has significantly changed because I took control to FIND, RECOGNISE, BUILD AND NURTURE a more loving and happier relationship I wanted.

Something needs to change if relationships are going to survive.  Is Christmas or Valentines your reminder to do something different if you don’t want to keep making the same mistakes?

*The Daily Mail 6^th Dec 2016 reported from the Office of National Statistics that Marriage and Divorce as it is lowest since 1970’s. Relationships are no longer surviving now we are living together longer and weaker relationships continue to end.

Finding love isn’t always easy if you are a woman in your late 30’s, 40’s or 50’s+ and you find yourself single or divorced a while and you want to avoid more heartache. But get this. You still have an amazing gift – your FREEDOM TO CHOOSE.

If you have never married before, would love to settle down, or you have been divorced a while with children and co-parenting with an ex. partner and you are considering dating.  You may find it hard living alone, coping through the ups and downs of life, supporting yourself financially, emotionally and mentally.  The right life skills would give you the emotional scaffolding to feel stronger inside and also help you to better support your children as you lead them by a new healthy communication example.

There are many times you may feel vulnerable living as a single woman or parent. These such times you would love to be loved and cherished.  It is also often too easy to reach out to someone new if you are feeling needy of being loved. Be warned, you are also likely to get hurt again.

Today I want to motivate you with a new choice to find someone extraordinary if you are prepared to help yourself and do what it takes to change your life into a much happier, more loving and fulfilling future you truly deserve.

There are a lot of amazing men out there, but first you need to take responsibility for your 50% of the relationship you want in your life, particularly if you have been heartbroken too many times.  What do I mean?  It is far to easy to pass blame to a partner if he didn't meet your needs.  It is also your responsibility to consider what part did you play in your previous relationships break down for it to end.   Did you take responsibility for your emotions instead of telling a partner they upset you?

There are many reasons relationships end, you may have been left the victim, but also you may be sabotaging your relationship(s) without realising it.  Your subconscious could be protecting you from being hurt again.  e.g. you may push someone away from you because they are getting too close emotionally for the fear of being hurt again.

When you begin to listen much more loudly to the words you use, how you communicate and talk to yourself inside your head, what you say and how you speak to your colleagues at work, your friends and family.  Do you talk positively about yourself, or put yourself down?  This is a good indicator of your self-esteem and self-confidence.  Or maybe, you continue to tell yourself you keep meeting the same type of men, or you cannot trust anyone because you were hurt previously.  How you talk to yourself right now will determine the type of man you attract to you.

Imagine you are speaking to a magical genie.  You hear yourself saying - men let you down, you are fearful of being hurt again.   The words you say to yourself, your genie will continue to deliver what you ask for!  Its called the law of attraction or your self-fulling prophecy a subject I could talk to you about for hours.

To start your new journey, it's important to become aware of your language, negative and positive, to change your self-awareness and language into what you DO WANT, instead of what you don't want.

To do this takes practice, on a daily basis to create new neuropathways your brain begins to refer to instead of your old way of thinking where you are right now.  When you become aware of the way you communicate, think and behave you will more easily transform and change your approach next time.

In your previous relationships, did you communicate your needs clearly, did you use protest behaviour (e.g. become moody, indirectly say you are fine when inside you feel upset, or use tit for tat approach and not speak to each other for hours or days, or did you communicate your deeper emotions and needs clearly)?

Today the best advice I can give you, having walked my talk, is take the time to learn more about yourself NOW and how you tick, think, behave and communicate.  If you want to meet someone extraordinary you will instinctively recognise your Mr or Mrs Right when you meet them.  This recognition will happen quickly when you’ve taken the time to understand yourself on a much deeper level, spending time loving you, building a relationship with yourself to feel more self-confident, resilient and happier in your own skin and life.  Your energy and the frequency you then emit will also change.

There are two scenarios I want you to consider.  The first one.  How confident do you feel in business based on your personal performance on a scale of zero up to 10?  If 10=highest number, what number would you give yourself on this scale?  If you are above 8 you are pretty self-assured and are doing a great job.  You may be at the top of your game and doing a great job. You know your stuff.

Now scenario two.  Now ask yourself.  How confident do you feel in yourself at recognising a man, someone new, who can easily communicate, share similar values and interests, also satisfy your deeper needs to be there for you through the ups and downs of life, beyond sexual chemistry?  Most people would possibly give a much lower number on the scale of zero up to 10.  Would you agree?

If you are learning anything new at work, or you recognise you need to learn a new skill to perform better in your job, to work more efficiently and effectively, you would go on a course to improve your skill set.

As a Life Coach (now specialising as a Relationship Success and Recovery Coach, Relationship and Well-being Expert qualified to accelerate your personal happiness and relationship success, learning life-changing skills today will change your relationship perspective, how you approach a new relationship and you will reset your heart, head and life in a new positive happier direction. You would also be better equipped to attract the man you want to attract to you and begin to build a much stronger relationship together because you have the relationship skills to do so.

Today I would like to invite you to improve your relationship skillset, to discover and accelerate your relationship proficiency, discover what's important to you about the relationship you want to share your life with, how to improve your communication skills in your relationship, how you deal with conflict to bring love back into the flow so much more quickly.  When you discover your deeper needs, you will more easily support a new partner's deeper needs.  It makes sense doesn't it?

Learning these skills you will become the best version of yourself and the best partner you can be to someone new.  You will more easily recognise if a man is aligned with you emotionally, mentally, physically and spiritually very quickly.  You will have the skills to understand a man is naturally wired and capable of giving you what you want emotionally to build a more rewarding, loving and connected relationship that can work and last, that is right or you.

The greatest gift you can give yourself this Christmas is the gift to super-accelerate your next steps towards the man you would love to attract to you.  How you feel in your heart and mind right now, will determine the type of man you attract to you.  If you want to avoid meeting the same men, to recognise someone extraordinary (they need to be sharing your life and heart) I would like to introduce to you a FREE 14 Day Relationship Coaching Taster (that will only take you 90 minutes to complete) or 10 minutes a day over 9 days.  If you then wish to continue through the program I am only charging £97 to accelerate your next steps with life-transforming coaching exercises to set you on a new pathway in 2019.

I am delighted to introduce you an online experience you can discover right now if it is right for you. Are you ready to invest a few hours of your time to recognise and build a more connected relationship, to get clear about what's important to you, to discover why you could be sabotaging yourself without realising it and whether someone is capable of satisfying your deeper needs?

To accelerate your next steps to find the love and partner you truly deserve in 2019, let me help you this Christmas time.