With mental and emotional health so prevalent combined with relationship challenges, as a relationship and healthy communication expert, learning how to become the Best You is the first step to feeling emotionally happier and mentally stronger.  Discovering the strategies and techniques to do this, will not only positively improve how you think, feel and behave towards yourself (loving you), but you will positively impact your boyfriend, partner, or husband, and your children (you have or want) leading them with your new healthy communication awareness skills. 

I know what it feels like to support yourself mentally and emotionally, living on your own, what it means to find and attract a healthy high-quality relationship, and what it takes to transform yourself to become the Best You, it's a life-long journey. Firstly, learning about your style of communication will dramatically deepen your relationship connection with yourself, to then deepen your relationship with the right man you choose to date, or your partner. The Best You skills are the foundation of any healthy loving relationship that can thrive. You will dramatically increase your survival chances too!

In my professional experience, there is a place for individuals to have counselling or therapy, but when does talking therapies give you a Best You or relationship communication structured toolkit? It doesn't, The clients I work with, don’t want or need therapy or counselling, because there is nothing wrong with them. They simply need to learn and follow a structured approach, to improve their communication skills. I have saved marriages following the same Best You program I designed and created, and it's the same healthy communication approach women looking for love, dating to find love, or in love apply in their relationship. Becoming the Best You, will give you the skills to become the Best Partner to the right quality man you want to find and build your happy ever after with.

If you are ready to be empowered, feel happier, and emotionally stronger and want to get it right in love.

To get your most critical dating decision right, becoming the Best You is the foundation to step into your true potential and your happiness within. Remember, the man you choose to date will impact your heart, life, dreams, future, and the family you want or have. Combining your Best You insights and the unique program I have created, anything is possible, I know so.

Your MOT step-by-step makeover opportunity is the greatest gift.  It’s revolutionary if you are ready to do what it takes if you love your self-development, and you will find and build the most loving and rewarding relationship, unlike any other relationship. The toolkit you will learn, it’s rather like a muscle you will begin to exercise, develop, and strengthen.

Top 5 Insights to Become the Best You

• Making time to understand yourself, will transform how you understand a new date or partner! To invest in the Best You, you’re investing in your mental and emotional happiness and the relationship you truly deserve, want or have.
• Any negative life experience e.g. relationship heartbreak, bereavement, depression, or redundancy, is your greatest gift to take a new direction.  If what you have been doing, hasn’t been working out for you on your relationship pathway, don’t let your mind control you, choose to take control of your mind. It's your magic genie!
• To become the Best You (takes time to learn and master). Anything you want in life, business or love, requires time and effort.  If you want the life you deserve, you decide.
• If you have been hurt too many times in love, LoveCoachingYou will prepare you, in advance of dating, in advance of another relationship, to apply your toolkit so you no longer fear getting hurt. Investing in your self-development individually will strengthen your relationship with your high-quality man.
• The clients I work with who get results in love, are driven and determined successful women and are no different from you or me.  To achieve the results you want in love, to find and build a relationship with your high-quality man, you MUST LOVE self-development. It’s YOUR superpower!

Your next step.

To get fitter mentally and emotionally stronger in love, to become the Best You and Best Partner, with over 30 years of Best You and relationship experience walking my talk, it's what makes me unique, and the right expert to work with. I will transform how you date, find and build the most rewarding, loving and healthy relationship of your life.

If you would love to find out more about how to become the Best You, I would love to invite you to join my next Masterclass Training Webinar, it's Free. Discover what you need to let go of, or what's holding you back and the 4 Steps My Clients Apply To Find And Attract A High-Quality Man Who Will Love, Value and Respect You.

With loving wishes

Karen Marshall x

LoveCoachingYou.com

Dating and Relationship Expert, Coach, Welling Expert in the Mind, Body and Energy, Trainer, Mentor, Consultant.

Professionally qualified, insured, accredited Relationship and Dating Expert, experienced in 5 interventions in the mind, body and energy connection, I combine my professional expertise.  With over 20 years of experience, I have walked my talk personally and professionally to become the Best ME to recognise the impact I have on my relationship success with the love of my life.  Today I understand male psychology and am heart centred, and spiritual. I know what works and doesn't to recognise, attract, and build the most loving, high-quality relationship with the love of my life. Let me now help you fill your heart and life with the love you truly deserve!

How well are you doing in your marriage so far?

Following covid, the fuel crisis, and the financial pressures more couples face it is essential to strengthen, save or rebuild your relationship before it's too late (if you both still want your relationship to work).

Or you could make the most significant decision of your life, wrongly, without the right discerning knowledge to help you save what you have. In my experience, therapy and counselling are not right for everyone. If you value your self-development and growth, then read on.....

If you are both struggling and miscommunicating, intimacy is breaking down in the bedroom (or has for a while). According to the ONS*, The average age for divorce is 45 for a man and 42 for a woman.

Consider these questions to sense check your relationship happiness together.

1. Do you believe your husband/wife should make you happy? Yes/No?
2. During an argument, do you blame your husband/wife for upsetting you? Yes/No?
3. Do you avoid discussing an argument (or walk away)? Yes/No?
4. Do you ignore your partner and remain in a mood for a while, if not days?  Yes/No?
5. Now you have been together a few years, do you sometimes feel bored with your relationship?  Yes/No?

If you answered 4 or 5 ‘Yes' to the above 5 questions:

What You Give Your Attention To

I bet you would develop your business skills at work to support your job function to improve your success or get the promotion you want. Investing time also to develop new relationship skills to improve your relationship success, can take you from where you are now, to strengthen what you have together.

Consider the next Top 10 priceless tips to help you reignite your relationship happiness.

Top 10 Tips to Avoid Divorce in 2023

For your relationship to survive and thrive.  Read each point then give yourself a mark out of 10.  Zero (= lowest number), up to 10 (=you are the best you can be).

1. Take responsibility for your own inner happiness, your self-confidence, how you feel about yourself. It’s the first step to improving your relationship happiness.  If you don’t feel good about yourself, how can you feel good about anyone else, your wife or husband? Start working on your mental and emotional fitness.  How happy do you feel about your personal happiness right now?  What number would you give yourself from 0 up to 10?
2. Take time to understand how you tick and communicate. Unless you know where your buttons come from when you get upset, and respond or react the way you do with your partner (or follow the same patterns with someone else) you will continue to keep pressing each other's buttons without any intention of doing it. When you get clear about why and when your buttons show up, you will learn a newfound sense of understanding of yourself and your partner, wife or husband. This knowledge is priceless if you want to save or strengthen your relationship. Before you decide your partner is no longer making you happy, think again. How aware of you of your buttons from 0 - 10?
3. Keep intimacy and sex alive Get your communication steps right (with your new skills), listen and respect each other's feelings, you can bring love and intimacy back on track. Your partner still wants to feel desirable regardless of the time you have known each other. Compliments are so precious to keep the fire burning for each other. How often do you compliment your partner 0 - 10?
4. Get clear about why you respond the way you do during conflict. You cannot change who you are, you can, however, learn to understand your natural communication style to better understand yourself. Then you will better understand your partner to become better equipped to bring love and chemistry back into flow much quicker. How well do you understand your style of communication (in your relationship) from 0-10?
5. You have a choice to decide how you react and respond to conflict.  You can also choose your attitude. Instead of shouting at each other. Make a conscious choice to discuss the way you feel, without passing blame, once have both calmed down. Remove yourself from an angry situation, start by slowing your breathing down to calm your body and mind. By learning the toolkit to take control of your anger (your emotions), you will respond and react so very differently to your partner. How well do you navigate conflict and your feelings from 0 - 10?
6. If you are feeling bored with your routine.  Or sex and intimacy are becoming less frequent.  Make time to plan new fun, exciting events or adventures together to reignite the romance. Sharing new experiences will reconnect you more intimately. How good are you at keeping love alive from 0-10?
7. Learning about your deeper emotional needs (beyond sex and chemistry) will help you discover what's important to your partner. How great are you at listening to give your partner space to talk about their emotional needs from 0-10?
8. How to overcome your negative emotions during/after conflict.  When you feel angry, with practice notice how you feel, where tension is held in your body.  How do your emotions make you feel? How well can you manage your anger and emotions to overcome conflict from 0 - 10?
9. Start planning regular date nights (to make each other feel special). Share your appreciation of each other, the reasons you were first attracted to each other. Remind your partner why they are so unique to you. Plan a new shared adventure (just the two of you together). Share some quality time together, to reignite your love, intimacy and connection. You are both responsible for your 50% of your relationship's happiness.

Another partner will not make you happy. Apply what you need to learn first. Separation or divorce will subsequently no longer be an option. Get your relationship survival toolkit, the solutions, to see how your relationship will change - if you both want to work on your relationship together.

To get in touch. Contact me here at LoveCoachingYou.com

Retirement shall we part

More and more couples are divorcing in retirement.  It’s either one of the most painful, emotional and financially life-changing experiences to go through, or it’s a ticket to freedom. But why do people in retirement, nowadays, have an increased chance of filing for divorce?

According to the Office of National Statistics (ONS) dramatic changes in life expectancy have triggered individuals to think if they still want to grow old together. At age 60 or 65, both men and women can still live 30 more years nowadays compared to the early 90's. So, with the kids already old enough to live by themselves, people are thinking "Do I want to live 30 more years of this?"

The Telegraph 8th November 2017 (see link below) mentioned another reason, the "Silver-Fox " phenomenon with men living longer, and still retaining a wandering eye. It also works both ways with women "Cougars", strong independent women, going for the younger man if she is not having her needs fulfilled with her current partner.

Divorce

Significantly, the figures show that, in stark contrast to other divorce age groups, men over 60 are as likely to file for divorce as women.  Overall there were 15,300 people of either gender over the age of 60 getting divorced in 2011 (the last official figures). By contrast in 1991, there were just 8,700.

Perhaps retirement is becoming a later-life crisis? We are thinking of ourselves if we don't have kids to take care of or have needs that aren't fully satisfied. Or, there’s the so-called "bucket-list". Travel the world or move to another country.

Your Happy Ever After

As a Relationship and Self-Transformation Coach, Holistic Health and Well-being Therapist, and my personal journey over 20 years I discovered what DOES WORK finding and building a more loving and happier relationship. I now share the most rewarding relationship of my life with my husband I have now been with for almost 10 years. Speaking from experience and 7 years of research to find my answers, qualified education and applying what I learned to attract my now life partner to me, if you are considering separation or divorce, whatever your age, wouldn’t it be worth one last shot to invest 2 days of your time, in the Relationship MOT I offer couples, singles or divorced clients looking for a meaningful relationship?

What you learn and discover in just 2-Days will positively transform your approach and future happiness, possibly with your current partner, or someone new.  Also, save you valuable time from making the same mistakes (you are unlikely to even be aware of).  Not forgetting the 75K-150K plus your divorce will cost you with legal fees, splitting your assets, pensions, selling your house or buying a new home, and of course the emotional heartache to everyone, including your family.

The 2 Day New Relationship Skills Coaching Program will certainly empower and motivate you to accelerate your life in the right direction.   You would discover the informed answers how to BUILD a much stronger, happier and more loving relationship together.  Or how to RECOGNISE, FIND and ATTRACT someone new that is right for you.

Lastly, these are some wise words you may wish to consider.  Always choose your next steps in love wisely.  Your partner or any new potential partner you invest your heart, emotions, energy and life in, will impact your health, happiness, future aspirations, your dreams and the rest of your life, so choose love wisely!   Most people don't know how to RECOGNISE if someone is right for them, the most important decision you will make before you start to date, or fall in love again. Then it's too late to turn back.

Before you repeat the same mistakes  (you may not even be aware of) consider investing 2 days of your life to take your own relationship MOT that will save you years of more heartache.  What price would you pay, if you knew you could discover the knowledge, positively accelerate your happiness and relationship journey, if you could find your RIGHT relationship instead?

Please note, that coaching is NOT a therapy. Coaching will empower, motivate and accelerate the choices you make, to help you move from where you are now, to where you want to be so much faster than you will on your own.

NEXT STEPS……….

Contact Karen to arrange your FREE 15- minute no obligation introduction call to help you decide on your next steps click here. Or discover when the next 2 Day Relationship Masterclass is coming up click here. 

Karen Marshall at LoveCoachingYou.com 

Telegraph link and resource:

https://www.telegraph.co.uk/women/sex/divorce/10225335/Til-retirement-us-do-part-silver-splitter-divorces-up-by-three-quarters-in-generation.html