The Dating and Relationship Paradox

If you are a driven, and determined successful woman and value your self-development, regardless of where you are on your dating or early relationship journey, understanding the dating paradox will accelerate your dating success. And determine your relationship's happiness!

I hear most women say this to me. “I am not ready to start dating yet, so I don’t need any help.” It is absolutely your paradox.

During this chapter of your life, when you don’t feel ready, it’s the perfect time to do the work, to be ready.

Why? Have you heard the dilemma question; which comes first, the chicken or the egg? Whether you want to get your dating decision right or build a more loving and healthy relationship that works. What comes first?  New relationship skills, or dating skills?

Yes, it is key to work on new relationship communication skills IN ADVANCE of dating. In advance, of being ready for another relationship. So I would highly recommend if you are a woman who values your self-growth and development, learning a new toolkit while you are single, then you will get very different dating results with the quality men you attract to you and the skills to build a healthy thriving relationship that works and can survive.

If you are dating. And your previous relationship history has left you feeling fearful deep down of getting hurt again. Be warned. You are 98% likely to repeat the same patterns and mistakes in another relationship (without realising it) unless you shift your dating approach. Applying a new toolkit anyone can learn especially if you love learning about yourself will accelerate finding and building the loving relationship every woman deserves.

You will reset your inner compass to discern if a man is compatible with you on a much deeper emotional level before you meet him.

It's easy to discern from out the outside how a man makes you feel, but what counts is on the inside, the way he communicates, values, respects and shows you love. You will also become the better partner for him and more easily navigate your challenges together, without him realising it's you.

Early stages of dating we are testing each other's boundaries, it's normal, but when little niggles become much bigger, how we deal with conflict will make or break any relationship. Bringing love back into flow quickly is an art to building a thriving loving relationship, it's also the glue that holds love together.

Discovering your communication style is the first critical set to recognise the right high-quality man, in advance of meeting him. Recognising how you communicate, will help you to easily understand his communication style, and to know that he is wired and compatible to satisfy your deeper emotional needs beyond chemistry, sexual attraction, shared interests and values. Then you will significantly increase your dating and relationship survival chances! Understanding your personal communication style is your first step.

You now have 2 choices:

Go to 1 below if you are NOT dating, happily single, or remotely interested in another relationship right now. But want the skills in advance of being ready.

Or go to 2, if you are dating.

  1. If you are NOT dating or ready for a relationship. Would you take your driving test without doing your theory first?  No, you wouldn’t.  You would certainly plan to make time to learn your theory to set yourself up for success. The same applies to dating.  Learn your relationship and communication insights theory first, in advance of dating, while you are single, and you will fast-track your dating success using the right knowledge and insights when you decide to date or feel ready to get back out there (e.g. 3 months time, or longer).  Instinctively, your theory will guide you to recognise a high-quality man who will jump out to you when you are ready. Or be warned, you could fall into another relationship by chance, and follow exactly the same mistakes (you are unlikely to be unaware of ). And set yourself up for more heartache or another relationship that doesn't last or work. My best suggestion is to start your dating MOT, to uncover the 10% that will hold you back or sabotage your chances with men, especially if you have been hurt too many times. The Free Masterclass Training Webinar will give you the answers.

Now let me explain the perfect chicken and egg dating paradox example.  Perhaps this statement resonates with you, particularly if you are NOT ready for another relationship or want to date right now.

E.g., I don’t want another relationship, I only want to focus on myself, my business, and my children (if you do have a family).  I am not interested in dating or need any help right now.  I just want to focus on myself.

Now think about this question. Would it be more beneficial to become aware of your likely relationship or dating obstacles, before, or after, you feel ready for another relationship?  This is the most precious piece of advice you need to know while you are healing your heart and life- do the work, your theory, while you are single! Or waste more valuable time, meeting the wrong men when you are ready.

It took me 20 years to figure out how to attract the right high-quality man, so you don't have to waste any more time making the same mistake women make without realising.

Jo, one client I worked with, dated narcissistic men for 7 years before she took my new toolkit approach.

To discover the 4 steps my clients use to find and attract their high-quality man who will love, value and respect them (without settling for second best) Join my next FREE Masterclass Training WEBINAR

2. If you are ACTIVELY DATING.  The majority of women wait to be chosen (hunted) by a man.  If you are endlessly chasing dates, feeling lost and want to know how to attract the right high-quality man, learning the skills now to become the chooser in love, join me on the next Masterclass Training Webinar, to discover the 4 steps you need to know to get your most critical dating decision right.

If you no longer want second best (or the scraps and men who treat you like a doormat) and want to meet the right high-quality man, who will love, value and respect you! Let's get you started:

Option 1 - Re-ignite your self-confidence. get the Top 3 Dating Tips right in advance of dating Click here for your download.

Option 2 - Join The Next FREE Masterclass Training Webinar

To uncover your 10% you need to let go of to attract the right high-quality man. And get the 4 steps you will need to know about your toolkit. Click here. to register your spot.

What step will you take, option 1 or 2?

I would love to fill millions of hearts and lives with the love every woman truly deserves! Let yours be one of them!

Karen x

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