The Dating and Relationship Paradox

Regardless of where you are on your dating and relationship journey, you will need to understand the dating paradox I hear most women say to me.

“I am not ready to start dating yet, so I don’t need help.” It is absolutely your paradox. When you are not ready, is when you need to do the work, to be ready.

Why? Have you heard the dilemma question; what comes first, the chicken or the egg? Whether you want to get your dating decision right or build a more loving and healthy relationship that works. What comes first?  New relationship skills, or dating skills?

To get it right in love next time, it is key to work on your relationship communication skills IN ADVANCE of dating. In advance of being ready to get back out there dating and another relationship. To do the work while you are single if you value you truly value your self-growth and development.    

If you believe you are ready to start dating and what you have been doing on your dating and relationship journey is not working out for you. Be warned. You are highly likely to repeat the same patterns again in a future relationship (without realising it). 

Learning about your communication style now is one of the first critical steps to help you quickly recognise the right high-quality man. You will recognise him beyond chemistry, sexual attraction, shared interests and values, and what makes him the right high-quality dating choice, to significantly increase your survival together! Understanding your communication is the first step to master. You now have 2 choices:

Go to 1 below if you are NOT dating, happily single, or remotely interested in another relationship right now.

Or go to 2, if you are dating.

  1. If you are NOT dating or ready for a relationship. Would you take your driving test without doing your theory first to pass your test?  No, you wouldn’t.  You would certainly make time to learn your theory to set yourself up for success. The same applies to dating.  Learn your relationship and communication insights theory first, in advance of dating, while you are single, and you will fast-track your dating success using the right knowledge and insights when you are ready for love in the future (e.g. 6 months time, 1 year, or much longer).  Instinctively, your theory will help you to very quickly recognise a high-quality man who will jump out to you when you do feel ready to move forward in your life. Or be warned, you could fall into another relationship by chance, and follow exactly the same mistakes (you are unlikely to be unaware of ). To set yourself up for more heartache and pain, for another relationship to end.

Here is your perfect chicken and egg dating paradox example. Perhaps this example resonates with you?

E.g., I don’t want another relationship, I only want to focus on myself, my business, and my children (if you have a family).  I am not interested in dating or need any help right now.  I want to focus on myself.

Think about this question. Would it be more beneficial to become aware of your likely relationship or dating obstacles, before, or after, you feel ready for another relationship?  This is the most precious piece of advice you need to know. Do the work before, while you are single.

Or waste more valuable time, meeting the wrong men. It took me 20 years to figure out how to attract the right high-quality man, so you don’t have to waste any more time making the same mistake (most women make without realising).

Jo, one client I worked with, dated narcissistic men for 7 years before she took my new approach.

To discover the 4 steps my clients use to find and attract their high-quality man who will love, value and respect them (without settling for second best or the scraps) Join my FREE Masterclass Training WEBINAR starting shortly. Click here.

2. If you are ACTIVELY dating right now.  The majority of women wait to be chosen (hunted) by a man.  If you are feeling lost and want to know how to attract your high-quality man, learn how to become the chooser (using your toolkit) to get your most critical dating decision right.

If you no longer want second best (or the scraps and men who treat you like a doormat) and want the right high-quality man, who will love, value and respect you! Let’s get you started:

Option 1

To re-ignite your self-confidence. Get the Top 3 Dating Tips, Every Woman Needs to know in advance of dating or another relationship (that men see and sense about you if they ghost you, are unreliable, don’t commit). Click here.

Option 2

Or join my next FREE Masterclass Training Webinar to uncover the 10% that could be sabotaging your chances with the right high-quality men. Click here.

What step will you take next, option 1 or option 2?

My mission is to fill millions of hearts and lives with the love you truly deserve! Let yours be one of them!

Karen x

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